Virgins And Menstrual Cups

NEWS:  I now sell menstrual cups at my new store:


To start with– not all virgins are under the adult age.  I know many virgins who are legal adults (I myself reached the age of 23 still a virgin), and they therefore have the right to read and research whatever they please.

But if you are not legally an adult yet, please get your parent’s/legal guardian’s permission to read this page, because I will be very frankly discussing the basics of sexual anatomy here, and the use of menstrual cups, as well as the body’s adjustment to them, particularly in regards to virgins who are considering using them.  I will be doing my best to keep the discussion as professional as possible.  But still, these are topics of a very personal nature, and different families have different opinions about when and how to educate young people about these matters.  So I would suggest first letting a parent/guardian read this page, and make sure they are ok with you reading it.  I do want to help educate people, but only if their legal guardians (if any) approve of the material.  By reading on, you demonstrate that have obtained your legal guardian’s permission to view this page (if you are under age), and that you have read these suggestions.  This information IS NOT meant to replace the advice of a doctor.  🙂

Now that the “disclaimer” is out of the way, I will say that PLENTY of young people and / or virgins use menstrual cups.  As a matter of fact (and this is also for the parents out there)– the youngest person I have ever spoken to who regularly uses both tampons and a menstrual cup– was 11 years old!  There really is no age limit.

The only thing I will suggest (and its really quite obvious)– is that if you are female and under age– in order to consider trying or practicing with a menstrual cup, you should at least have had your first menstrual cycle already, and your legal guardians should approve.   The reason I say “if you are female and under age” with this suggestion, is because its not only females, or those with periods who purchase cups.  There are many other reasons people purchase them.

Also, if you are young or a virgin, whether or not you decide to use a menstrual cup may depend on a few things:

1.  Your family, culture, or religion.  Some people have certain beliefs about the importance of the “hymen”, which we will talk about further down the page (cups and tampons can break a hymen).  If you are not legally an adult yet, please discuss this with a guardian first, and decide how you and they feel about it.

2.  Your own personal feelings.  Everyone feels differently about various menstrual products, and it is up to you to figure out how you feel.  You should never try something before you feel ready to.   If you have certain feelings and opinions, find a support system– people you trust, or who share your opinion– and discuss it.  This can be someone you know in person, or people online.  Don’t be afraid to ask questions, and get answers.   From the moment you are old enough to use the bathroom by yourself, it becomes your responsibility to clean and care for your body for the rest of your life.   So you have a right to know about the best ways of doing so.

3.  Knowledge and comfort levels with certain product ideas, and with your body.  Do you know a lot about your body?   Are you comfortable being very physically “involved” with your period?  I will try to explain as much as I can here, and provide as much knowledge as possible.  The better informed you are, the more empowered you are.

Once you have sorted out all these things, and if it has been decided that you are going to try a menstrual cup, now its time to prepare for purchasing your first cup.  Here are a few tips which could make things easier:

Before you get your cup:

Just to give you an idea of what to expect— a menstrual cup is probably going to be about as wide as 2 of your fingers side by side.  Another example is, it will be about as wide as a regular banana (peeled).  And depending on the brand, it may be as long as 2 fingers (like a DivaCup), or other brands (the smalls) may be only 2/3 as long in the body.  The stem can be trimmed to suit your comfort needs.  Please check my comparison photos here, if you want to see all the brands, side by side:

What to do first

First, you will need to get to know your body, if you don’t know it well already.  You should find the entrance of the vagina.  It seems like it should be easy, but some virgins or younger people can have trouble finding it, because it goes in at a back-slanted angle.  Meaning the inside of the vagina, slants back toward the anus / rectum.  The entrance is angled that way too, a bit.  So you kind of have to start at the front of the genital area, and probe your way back, until you feel an opening.   But be very careful.  If anything feels too uncomfortable, take a break and try again later.   For sanitary reasons, your hands should be very clean for this.  You can also purchase some disposable sanitary gloves from the store.  They are fairly cheap in the beauty isle.

You will need to use your hands to gradually adjust the vaginal entrance to where you can handle the width of a menstrual cup.  But work up to it gradually, do not try to hurry the process.  Only do as much as you are comfortable with.  During the process, try to aim BACK, toward the rectum / anus, or your tail bone, because that‘s the direction the vagina slants in.  Never aim straight up. because the cup will not seal correctly.   You should aim back when attempting to insert anything, like a menstrual cup or even a tampon.

Am I Too Small?

Please know that in everyone’s case, but especially virgins– the very entrance of the vagina (meaning the first ½ inch to 1 inch or so)  is MUCH more tense, and smaller in width than the rest of the vagina further up inside.  But practicing adjusting the entrance not only helps make the first cup use much easier, it also allows you to figure out your natural angle and shape.

As for the rest of your body…  I want to stress that being tiny in the body– as in being short, or very thin, DOES NOT mean that your vagina is also small.  Not at all.  Height and weight have absolutely NOTHING to do with vaginal size.  I know people who are 6 feet tall and heavyset, who can only use a very small cup.  And I know people who are quite short and very thin, who need the largest cup.   Everyone is different.

Will I get too “loose”?

This is a very common question.  But there are some things you should know about this.  First, the vagina does not really “stretch out beyond repair”, like a T-shirt, so to speak.  Its more like a rubber band–   made of very elastic and flexible skin, and very strong and elastic muscles.  The skin and muscles are able to stretch open to fit a baby’s head, and still heal and shrink back down to a fairly normal size again.

So certainly, something as small as a cup or tampon cannot cause you to stretch out, never to return to your normal size…  Also, if you have issues with weak muscles down there (and maybe even bladder control problems?), doing “kegel exercises” will strengthen and tighten the muscles quite a bit too.  As a matter of fact, some cup users report feeling like their muscles down there are actually tighter using a cup, because cup users tend to kegel their cup quite a bit, by instinct.

Adjusting your body is not really about “stretching” per se.  The elastic skin and strong muscles will always want to shrink back down, like a rubber band.    Its more about the nerves, really.  And learning to relax the muscles.  When you are young, the vaginal muscles may be very tense.   The nerves in the vagina may also  be more “raw”.  They might feel pain and discomfort more easily.  A menstrual product being inside can bother some young people at first.  As you keep using one, and as you get a little older, your nerves will begin to change, and not be so raw anymore.  Your body will produce more natural moisture than before.  The muscles in “that area” will relax a bit.  That is the natural maturing process of the body.

However, assuming you have no medical issues– practicing adjusting your body and using internal menstrual products can speed this process up dramatically.  Just be patient.  Practice, and don‘t give up.  Your body will soon adjust, and it will be no big deal.

What About Cup Sizes? Should I Get The Large? Or The Small?

One of the biggest mistakes I see first time cup users make (especially virgins and young people), is automatically getting the smallest possible cup.  Usually because they are nervous about size.  And well…  Its true that “most” young people and virgins will be more comfortable with a small size cup.

However, it also depends which brand you choose.  Some have 3 sizes, instead of two (Meluna, Naturcup).  In this case, you definitely DON’T want to pick the smallest cup, unless you have an extremely light flow.  If your flow is about average, its better to try the medium instead.    Otherwise, you will constantly be emptying it, because the smallest cup will not hold very much liquid…

But with all other brands, assuming you have a fairly normal flow– sure, go ahead and get the small.

Now its time to discuss heavy flows, the possibility of a large…  Or perhaps just a brand that has more capacity, even in its small size.  You’ve got a few choices here.  Obviously being young or a virgin, and having a heavy flow can be very tricky when choosing a cup.  You are nervous about a large, but you want good capacity, right?  If your flow is heavy, you can either stick with a smaller brand (Ladycup, Meluna), and simply empty your cup more often…  Or you can get a small size of a brand that has more capacity (DivaCup, Lunette, Yuuki, Miacup, Shecup).  Your last option of course, is to try and adjust yourself to a large, for ultimate capacity.  Which I have seen young people and virgins do before!  Its not as common, but its a choice some people do make.

When You Finally Have Your Cup

After you have gotten to know your body a bit more, and done some adjusting, I would suggest practicing inserting the menstrual cup now.   You can even try using no-applicator tampons first, like o.b., before using a cup.  Just so you can get used to the hands-on concept.

But with the cup– first, always aim back toward the rectum or tail bone when inserting.  Again, do not aim up.  Follow the natural back-slant of the vagina.  If you feel dry and need lubrication, try to get water-based vaginal lube, or just wet the cup with water or saliva / spit.  Do not use oil-based lubes, or any body/face lotions, shampoo, conditioner, or any other liquids– these can cause infections.

Your first tries may be less than graceful.  That is normal, and perfectly ok.  Just keep trying, and work with different folds, until you find one that works best for you.  Here is my video showing different folds:

Also, remember to take it one step at a time; you don’t need to get the entire process down in one day.  Here is what you can master, in baby steps:

1.  Inserting.  First just get to a point where you can get the cup inside you.

2.  Removal.  If you can fit a finger in, try denting in the cup wall to let air inside and break the seal.  If you cannot fit a finger it,  you can pinch the bottom of the cup, and rock it from side-to-side, to “walk” the cup down.  As you get a better grip on it, you can pinch the cup into a partial fold (surprisingly, you can even partially fold it with liquid inside without spilling, if its not too full).  Ease out only one side of the rim at a time.  Preferably from the side, rather than the front– as the front is extra sensitive, due to the urethra.  As you bring the cup out, pivot the cup into an upright position.  This will keep contents inside.

3.  Popping Open.  Once you have the hang of the above techniques, now try getting the cup to pop open all the way, and position correctly.  Too many people want to master this part in the first day.  But you don’t have to.  While some people do get it quickly– many need more practice.   If you don’t get it right away, that’s ok.  Just keep trying.   Some really helpful tips— try inserting with the folded crease facing down or backward (the back wall of the vagina has more room for it to pop open).  Also try folding the cup so that one of the suction release holes is inside the fold crease.  That will keep the tiny hole exposed to air longer, letting the cup pop open better, since the part inside the fold crease is the last part of the cup to touch skin.

Take it one step at a time.  Don’t worry, you will get it.

When should I practice with a cup? 

You can do it whenever you want.  But I personally think it is best to do this in baby steps too.  Master insertion, removal, and popping open BEFORE your period starts.   That way, when you get your period, all you have to do is see if you got the seal right.

Also, I would strongly suggest that when you get your period, the first week, you can use your regular supplies during the day, or when you are out of the house.  And just “test out” your cup in the evenings, when you are at home.  You can wear a pad for backup if you wish.  I did, the first week, but I didn’t really need it, because I’d had tons of practice before it came, and all went well.  I never have again, since.  🙂

Once you are confident that you have the seal right, and you are confident that the cup concept is working for you– then you can try wearing it out of the house, and during certain activities.

Getting To Know Your Body

Ok, now its time to help you learn a little more about your anatomy, if you don’t already know it well.  Hopefully, this can help you to feel more relaxed about everything, and answer lots of questions.

What is a hymen?  Can a menstrual cup or tampon break it?

“Hymen” is the proper name, but another common slang name for it is the “cherry”, you will probably hear this term more.

Many people think the hymen is up inside the vagina.  But this is not true.  The hymen is basically like a very thin piece to skin or tissue that covers the OUTSIDE of the vagina‘s entrance.  Or just part of the entrance.  If you still have one, you can probably easily see it with a small mirror.

Both menstrual cups and tampons can break the hymen, but it really depends what kind of hymen you have, and if you even have one at all!  Some people were born without one.  Others have already torn it with certain sports or other activities.

Many people are confused about the importance of the hymen.  They think that a “virgin” is supposed to have a hymen.  Or that if you break your hymen, you are no longer a virgin.  THIS IS NOT TRUE.  Again, some people are born without a hymen, or break/tear it by accident while doing normal, non-sexual activities.  For example, the hymen can be torn or broken by horse back riding, riding a bike, dancing, bending and stretching, falling down too hard, gymnastics and other sports, self exploration, doctor exams, and using tampons.

Another fact, is that some hymens are very thick and tough– even with the above activities, and sometimes even with sexual experience, it still won’t break or tear all the way!  This is a bit rare, but it certainly does happen.

Its difficult to say this in a delicate way, but here is the truth– as long as a girl/woman has never had penetrative sexual intercourse (vaginally) with another person– she is still a virgin.  Plain and simple.  So don’t worry, using a tampon or a cup cannot take away virginity.

Some countries, religions, or cultures put A LOT of value on the hymen, and directly relate it to whether or not someone is a virgin.  However, because of all the above facts, the condition of the hymen simply IS NOT an accurate way to prove or disprove virginity.

Here is a drawing example of the different types of hymens:
In Order from left to right:

————Septate        —        No Hymen       —          Cribriform     —         Normal——–

As you can see, some hymens have holes in the center, and some not so much.  Some are bits of skin that go down the center.  Some only go round the outer edge, some have many tiny holes.  There is even an example of no hymen at all.

But there is also another kind not pictured here— its called the “Imperforate” hymen, which basically covers the entire entrance of the vagina, with no holes in it whatsoever.  In this case, a young girl’s first period flow will simply force its way out and break the hymen a little bit in doing so.  Or if the hymen is too thick, a physician may need to cut it open– but this is extremely RARE.

What we have “down there”

This next section will just be to help walk you through the basics of what you have down below, what its all for, and what everything is called.  Just to keep it simple, we will start at the top and the outside, and name everything from there down and inward.  You can see  everything in the medical drawing down below, to follow along:

1.  Mons Pubis (the pubic bone).  This is the hard bone at the front of the genitals.  It helps form and hold the bone structure of the pelvic area.  Anyone who has ever accidentally hit or hurt this bone, knows it can be quite sensitive.

2. Labia Majora (Big / outer Labia).  These are the larger, thicker outer “lips” or fold of skin on the outside of the genitals.  They are there to protect and cushion the more delicate inner parts.

3. Labia Minora (Small / inner Labia).  These are the stretchy, thin, wrinkly folds of skin that are just inside the bigger, outer labia.  Each person’s labia are unique, different from everyone else.  They may be different sizes, different shapes and colors.  And that is ok.  There is no “ideal” way for how labia is supposed to look.  Your own, is your own.   These also help to protect the more delicate areas.

4.  Clitoris.  You will find this near the upper part of the genitals.  Part of it (the “shaft”) is under the labia skin.  But the tip or head, is exposed when the labia skin is pulled back.  The clitoris is extremely sensitive to the touch, and its main purpose is sexual pleasure / stimulation.

5.  Urethra / Urethral Opening.  This is the hole you pee from.  Many people think women pee from our vagina, but we do not.  The urethra normally stays tightly closed at all times, and is extremely sensitive to pain.  It should be treated with care.

6.  Vagina.  This is the hole at the back / bottom of the genitals.  It can be for sexual activity, and its where babies come out.  But it is also where vaginal moisture, and the blood from your period comes out.    This is where a tampon, a menstrual cup, and some forms of birth control would go.  If you have a hymen, it would cover the outer opening of the vagina.

7.  Anus / rectum.  This is of course where solid waste (poop) comes out.

That’s basically it for anatomy, and cup use for virgins.  I hope this has helped to shed some light on the subject, and please leave a comment if you have questions.


  1. Marina said,

    Wow, great post!
    I think it’s also worth mentioning that a virgin shouldn’t necessarily get a very small cup, like the small meluna or small ladycup. if one has a high cervix and/or a heavy flow, it might be better to get a narrow but longer cup, since a long cup won’t be less comfortable to insert than a short one – we low cervix folks are really pretty lucky that some brands’ small sizes are shorter than the large.

    • Marina said,

      and also, it seems like especially virgins sometimes think if you’re thin and not very tall this means your vagina is small… actually when i saw the “am i too small” section, i expected it to be about this 🙂

      • menstrualcupinfo said,

        Good point, I think I should add that in! It really is true that you can be a tall heavy-set person and still have a tiny vagina. Or very short and thin, but need a larger cup. We are all so different.

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Very true, one of the biggest mistakes I see people make is running straight for the smallest possible cup…. Without carefully considering the fact that they may be “long” up inside (even young people and virgins can be), or not considering their heavy flow. Always, always consider your flow when choosing a cup! 🙂

  2. Quitterie said,

    Yes! A super great post 😀
    I am (too?) curious, but i think it can be very interesting. Hm i just wondered what you meant exactly, when you precise what follows :

    “The reason I say “if you are female and under age” with this suggestion, is because its not only females, or those with periods who purchase cups. There are many other reasons people purchase them.”
    Oh, so there are other purposes than collecting blood to cups ? :o)
    (like collecting/checking cervical fluid for female persons i guess, when trying to get pregnant..)

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Yes, some people do buy them for other reasons, even though the companies will not and cannot suggest doing so. Cups have only been approved for the collection of menstrual blood. So legally, the companies cannot suggest other uses at all.

      But against company advice (and against my advice, for the same reasons), I have heard of some people buying a menstrual cup only for the purpose of monitoring cervical mucus. I’ve even heard of someone who got a gender change operation, using a cup to catch the fluid that drained from the newly created vagina, or to help keep it from closing / healing up, as it sometimes can.

      Or even using it to collect rectal secretions. But even if a person doesn’t care about the company’s recommendations, or legal matters– still, I REALLY don’t think that’s a good idea at all. Anyone who has ever used a cup knows that a cup will drift up as far as its allowed to, by the end of the vagina (cervix). A rectum does not have an end, or a cervix, so there is a serious danger of the cup drifting too far up inside.

      Then of course, there are both men and women who purchase them for educational purposes. Like doctors and sexual health counselors purchasing one to keep it in their office, and show to patients/clients as another option for them. Or someone who promotes natural health and healing. Some people also buy them just to study them, or to do a report. Sometimes because they plan to design their own cup– such people can also be male or female. Miacup used to be owned by a man, and Meluna is. I also know men who have chosen to purchase cup stock and distribute / promote them in their area.

      • Quitterie said,

        A deep thanks to you Melissa, for your developed answer 8-), ty!

        Indeed, i had imagined that if one would like to place a menstrual cup in the rectum, it could actually be dangerous.. since, as you said, the rectum doesn’t have an end.

        The use of the cup for help keep the vagina from closing / healing up may be nice, and practical (?) Well maybe it could be ‘neat’, so to speak, to replace some dilatators in some conditions. But the entrance of the vagina itself wouldn’t be stretched/kept unclose, as usually the cup rides higher up.

        …… I had read too that the *sea sponges* could be used by men. I must admit i was pretty intrigued — i thought it was to deal with rectal secretions as well.
        Or maybe even to act on the prostate ? _but then, in which way it would do so, have no idea?

        Anyway, for FTM (female-to-male) persons, who are still bleeding, the cup must be very cool too, well i hope for them^, because we can forget about our flow thanks to it ^-^…

        Just a note back to the subject^, i start using cups when i was still a virgin, at 23 yo, and my first cup was the Mooncup too 🙂 (the small, B size.)
        I was used to occasionally wear tampons, but never was very comfortable with them ; especially for insertion, they were still scaring me a bit (and feeling unpleasant.) Comparatively, it’s been **much** easier and ‘obvious’ for me to insert the cup for the first time!! And it did work, contrary to the tampons, lol. The angle for insertion kinda found its way by itself, ah.
        But i was really motivated using the cup ;o).
        I didn’t even need to go in baby steps, but also, i was 23.. and already quite knew my anatomy. Whatever the time it takes though, it is definitely worth it. And Melissa you’re right, there is no need to hurry, not at all.
        And sometimes, a much older woman will have some troubles the first times, while a young virgin woman will get the trick at once ;D.

        So no fatalism – tsss i mean let’s all keep cool :D.

  3. shhh said,

    I was wondering the same thing Quitterie asked!

  4. Sarah said,

    Thaks for this info! Luckily (as with most people) the hymen means basically nothing to my culture (we aren’t religious or anythng so there’s nobody judging us). Also, does the hymen basically cover the vaginal opening? If so I’ve never had one.

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      It covers the outside of it, yes. But the way it covers, depends what kind you have. See, if its the “normal” hymen, then that is the easiest to deal with. But true, some people are born without one.

  5. Sara said,


    I’m 19, I have my period since I was 12 years old and I am a virgin.
    I have always used pads until now.
    My period lasts exactly one week.
    The two or three days, my flow is quite abundant or very abundant (to put things, I use sanitary pad that are very absorbent and have 6 drops).
    In the middle of my period’s week, the flow is average.
    At the end of my period’s week, the flow is light.

    Knowing that I can not empty my cup during the day when I’m at school, I would have a menstrual cup that takes throughout the day (that is to say 7h – 17h) without overflowing.

    Which one can you advise me ?

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Thank you for your questions Sarah.

      First I would like to say if your flow is heavy, you will need to empty it more often. You should never wear your cup longer than 10 to 12 hours, without emptying and washing it.

      Also, some good news– you CAN empty your cup in school, please feel confident about that. In a public restroom, you do not have to wash the cup in the sink, if you don’t want to. This is what you can do– Go in the school’s restroom, take one of the paper towels that you dry your hands with (the regular toilet paper will shred too much), and get the paper towel wet in the sink. Then squeeze out some of the water. Take the paper towel in the toilet stall with you. Remove the cup, empty it in the toilet, and use the wet paper towel to wipe the cup (and your hands) clean. You may bring 2 paper towels if you wish. Or as many as you like, to clean up. Then you can reinsert your cup. You can simply give it a regular wash after you get home. You can do this in any public wash room, so your cup is manageable anywhere.

      Second, you should stay with cups that have good capacity, like:


      This will give you more time. The first time you use your cup on your period, only practice at home in the evenings, and during the night. During the day you can use your regular methods, until you are confident and comfortable with your cup.

      Hope this helps,


      • Sara said,

        Thank you for taking the time to answer my questions.
        You have really helped me, thank you.



      • Sara said,

        I just ask you another question.
        I would buy a menstrual cup Lunette, but what size should I take, taking consideration the fact that I am a virgin and I have heavy periods ?
        Should I take size 1 or size 2 ?

        Thank you in advance,


      • menstrualcupinfo said,

        You could really take either, considering that even small Lunette has pretty good capacity. The large is firmer, however. And while being firmer lets it pop open very easily, a virgin may find the softer small to be more comfortable.

      • Sara said,

        Once again, thank you very much for your help !
        I chose the small Lunette Diana 🙂

  6. Crystal said,

    Okay, being 23 and still a virgin myself, I’ve been looking into these ever since I came across a link while researching tampons. I realized “…wait, they exist!?” Thinking that I was weird for wanting something like this, it came to my amusement.

    You answered a lot of particular questions I had in my head but I still have a few more..

    I’ve always been a pads girl, but since I don’t work yet, and I would really like to, I need to figure out what to do about it. So my mom recommended some Kotex tampons. I was trying them out, and researching tampons and issues with them, etc. Because well, I’m a very wary person of these things. I never felt like they were a good idea, but my flow isn’t exactly nice. It’s quite messy (tmi, maybe?) but it’s part of the reason I’m afraid to get a job, I don’t wanna get fired for “Frequent” bathroom breaks or having to call off because sometimes it just makes me wanna stay in bed. I used to be quite active on my period, and it didn’t bother me but I started having seizures and it made it a bit more of a mess and a lot more painful. I can tolerate most of the cramps now, I just need control of the mess.

    So.. enough of the TMI.. I’m usually heavy for two days then a lighter flow off and on for 1-5 days depending. What I wanna know is what you would recommend to me, and stuff like how often to empty/clean it, I seen an earlier comment about 10-12 hours. Does it really last that long? Are they safe to sleep in? (Waking up isn’t pleasant..) My Hymens been gone for years since I used to be in a lot of sports and biked a lot, I assume that’s how I lost mine, since I’m sure I was born with one. So the Hymen thing won’t be an issue, I don’t want an absurdly big one, I want something comfortable.. The tampons aren’t.. “uncomfortable” per say, but.. I don’t really like what I read about them, and I don’t like how they work.. especially the weird string that can get “lost.” You know?

    I guess I’m more so nervous and don’t want to get the wrong things. I wanna get on with my life and conquer this period once and for all! :]

  7. Carrie said,

    hi, i’m 18, a virgin, and just bought the lunette size 1. i’ve used tampons before but i can’t seem to get the cup even a little bit inside! and i’m embarrassed to say, sometimes i can’t even find the opening…. i’m so excited to use it, and can’t get it in. any more in depth tips? i’ve read a lot of tips already but it isn’t working..

    • Carrie said,

      Nevermind! once my period started, it was very simple to get it in, although a bit painful for insertion and removal.. and i thought i’d never get it out! but i guess that goes away with time… thanks for this website!

      • Vixen said,

        Try squatting while you are at home to get it out until you get used to working with it.

  8. Vixen said,

    You need to have a survey selection tool on your website. Where people can answer questions like:
    Do I need a long cup or a short one?
    Do I have heavy, medium or light periods?
    Does the cup need to big around or smaller around?
    Do I want a ring or a stem for the bottom of the cup?
    Do I want a thick or thinner rim?
    Am I a virgin or not?

    And when that survey is done the online program will point to the cup / cups that may work best for that person? I feel that will eliminate a lot of which one questions to help people with the selection process.

    I personally don’t know how to program that or if your website building options have it; but it would be a really good idea to have that available.

  9. Chrissy said,

    Thanks for the info! im interested in getting a cup and im 23, virgin and small i know that lol, anywho im in the usa n interested in the moon cup by keeper any advice or anything?

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      I would say try a punch-down fold. See if you can get some lube (water-based only, that’s very important), to help ease insertion. And since it is smooth, keep toilet paper in your hands so you can re-dry your fingers whenever you need to during removal. The more dry they are, the better your grip is.

      Hope that helps 🙂

  10. C. said,


    I’ve been interested in menstrual cups for the past few months, but never got one because I have never used a tampon. However, I’m sick of feeling disgusting when I use pads. I took the test to find out which cup would be best for me and it suggested femmecup.

    I tried getting comfortable with my body or whatever as I’m a virgin and, again, never used tampons, but I just ended up getting extremely upset and causing pain since I could only get a finger partially the way in before being in pain. How do I go about getting used to having something up there?

    Thank you.

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      First, I’ll say don’t give up. Keep trying, this is totally normal. But I would suggest trying tampons first, just to get used to the concept, and figure out how things sit up in there for you. If your flow is not too heavy, try the smallest tampon available. And just to push yourself toward the concept of a cup, try the ones with no applicator. Like o.b.

      Another tips is, try getting some water-based lube (oil based can cause infections, and silicone based doesn’t work well with silicone products, because the components that make it liquid can deteriorate the solid silicone). Lube is not a miracle product, but it certainly helps. The sell some for cheap at dollar stores, if you have one near you.

      When you insert anything in the vagina, always aim BACK, almost like you are trying to push it through to your rectum. Never aim straight up. Our vaginas naturally slant back, some of us are almost parallel to the floor, as a matter of fact! lol. You will find things go in with less fuss that way too.

      When/if you do try a cup, go with the smallest one (again, if your flow is not really heavy). That would be small Meluna. All this can sort of help the process, step by step. The younger we are, the more adjusting we need.

      Hope this helps,


      • C. said,

        Thank you very much, I will try tampons first. You really helped me out a lot, and didn’t make me feel embarrassed, I appreciate that. 🙂

      • menstrualcupinfo said,

        No problem. 🙂

  11. C. said,

    Actually, even though it suggested I get femmecup, the Yuuki seems a lot softer and more capacity, Is that so?

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Yuuki has a little more capacity, but… I don’t know about softer…

  12. Elizabeth said,

    Thank you so much for this site and how thorough it is! I started out using the Keeper 17 years ago and then 10 years ago switched to the Diva Cup. Now my 11 year old is on the brink of her period. Her friend just got hers and is having to change her pad once an hour (ugh!). I’m hoping my daughter won’t have to face that. She’s excited about using a cup and I’m so grateful that you have this section! She also really liked the folding video. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

  13. lovely said,

    what if i dont have a hymen and haven’t had any sexual intercourse i still considered as virgin?

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Yes, by most of the world’s standards, it is agreed that a virgin is someone who has not had “penis in vagina” sex.

      They hymen is not virginity in itself. It is merely the “proof” many cultures have been using to show that a female is “untouched and pure”. However, it is clearly not an accurate way to prove innocence or purity, especially since some people are born without one, or they break it through other activities. Also because there are many other sexual activities a person can engage in that do not break the hymen. So really…. It proves nothing, in terms of “honor and purity”.

  14. Connie Moore said,

    Will this cup cover the urethra? I get bladder infections and I need to use a hydro theropy tub for pain. I need to keep water out of the urethra.

  15. Tanya said,


    If someone has heavy flows and a hymen with a septum and only one side with an opening that can stretch to fit their finger, would you suggest using a cup?

    More information:
    I’m a bit nervous with this. I can fit a tampon but ONLY if it starts out narrow and isn’t very big. It also has to be smooth plastic and not dry during insertion. I’m not very comfortable with tampons… Imagine having to use one side to insert and take out… A small movement and you have a tampon stuck BEHIND the hymen and in pain. ugh…

    I can’t imagine using a cup. I really need it for heavy flows. No pad can contain it. I love the idea of the cup, etc. But with my anatomy, I’m not sure.

    I thought I “broke” my hymen when learning to ride my bike bc of the bleeding and burning. I learned that I had plenty left when I first tried a tampon. I’m scarred from first tampon use. Took hours to get in…I knew where it was but couldn’t stick it in there. But the worst part was taking it out! I couldn’t get it out. It would bulge out covered by hymen… I had no idea what kind of hymen I had or anything. I had to use scissors and peel the hymen away from the tampon… and oh the pain. >_< Took an hour to take out. And my sister who never had a hymen totally was not understanding! 😥 My opening is bigger now and can pass a tampon if I remove it to the side. Finally at 22, I figure that much out. But now my periods are getting heavier and no pad can take care of it… I hate tampons bc I have to use one side to insert/take out. I'm at a loss at how to take care of my problem. I've had three leaks in 24 hours and that is unnacceptable. By leaks, I mean I had a pool on the floor. I get a sudden "gush" everytime I get up that pads can't absorb quickly enough…

    FYI: My hormones were perfect and periods on schedule. Thyroid and blood clotting work was good too. I don't want to use birth control bc of side effects. 😦 I want to try this cup method, but am terrified. Advise please on how to get over this initial phase. I'll work my way up with bigger and bigger tampons in the meantime.

    • River said,

      I don’t know anything
      But maybe there is some kind of surgery to cut the hymen? This sounds like a horrible experience and I feel so bad for you! If I were you I’d ask my doctor and explain really well all you wrote here.

    • Beth said,

      I would definitly go to a doctor to see if you could have it cut. It sounds bad but it’s really not. The first tampon I used got stuck behind my hymen and I ended up going to a gyno, she cut is partially so that I can now use tampons comfortably, it was easy and hardly painful at all! Talk to a gyno, see what they can do. 🙂

  16. Tanya said,

    Oh and as a side note… any females with issues with tampons getting stuck behind hymens – try the Playtex brand. Because of the design, it is pretty easy to take out compared to Tampax or other brands.

  17. Beth said,

    Hello, since first hearing about menstrual cups a short time ago, I have done a fair amount and have decided that I would like to try it. I am 15 years old, and a virgin. I first got my period at about 11, and for the first year at least I used pads. The very first time I used a tampon was not a fun experience. Inserting it was fine, but when it came time to take it out I found I could not, and that it was very painful to try. I ended up having a very embarrassing trip to a doctor, and then a gyno where my hymen had to be cut so that the tampon could be taken out. I have used tampons fine ever since but the gyno did say that the hymen could partially grow back, which is why I am a little concerned about using menstrual cups. Is there any possibility of one getting stuck, as they seem to be larger than tampons?
    Thank you for making this extremely helpful website by the way. 🙂

  18. Maggie said,

    I am a teen virgin looking for a good first menstrual cup. I am a smaller girl with a med length vagina. I have been using tampons since my first period to accommodate my very active lifestyle. My extremely heavy (super tampon filled every two hours) flow brings a massive amount of cramps. From what I have read so far, the RubyCup, or the FemmyCycle seem to be a good ones. Is this true? If so, where can I purchase them in the US? If this they are not good firsts, what others would you suggest?

    Thank you for taking your time to answer my questions and providing the information!

  19. divya said,

    Hi, Am was jus trying to educate myself more about menstrual cup before venturing into it. I bumped into ur site which has good info overall. I would like to know which is the best menstrual cup that i can opt for as a beginner. To give more info about me. Im 30yrs married without kids :). I also read in some other blog/site that few menstrual cup allows u to have sex without being disturbed. Kindly spare your time to help me. Thanks in advance.

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      If you have a heavy flow you should probably stick to larger sizes. If you are extra sensitive, stick to softer cups (I have a measurement chart here with a softness rating list at the bottom).

      Also thus far there is only ONE brand which allows you to have clean sex during your period. It is the “Instead” cup. I do have a review of it here if you would like to read more about it.

  20. Ashley Brownlee said,

    Today is my first day using the DivaCup, I have used tampons in the past but they always leaked and I had to wear full pads with them. People told me its because the tampons were to small or I didn’t change them often enough. I was already having to change them every 30 minutes because my flow was so heavy. while waiting for my pizza at Kmart i was looking at a magazine and I came across the DivaCup logo, so i did some research and decided to try it. I put it in this morning which took me 15 minutes! (i just couldn’t figure it out :p) but i took a deep breath and tried again and got it! it has been 5 hours with no leaks!! I am super excited about that.. i found your blog while at school this morning and i wish i would have seen it earlier!! great information!!!

    i have a question though, i have researched most of the morning and just decided to ask here instead of spending more time looking.. i emptied my DivaCup about 30 minutes ago, (this time with way more success then the first time) when i emptied it there was clear mucus on the outside but not the inside. i am wondering if this is normal?? i didn’t have this with tampons, so i am just a little worried.

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Don’t worry, it is very normal. You will see things on the inside and the outside. Inside the cup you will see clear mucus at the top, and dark red blood in the bottom. this is because the clear cervical mucus comes out with your period blood. And also plasma separates from the red blood cells. the red blood cells are heavier so they sink to the bottom, leaving the clear plasma and clear cervical mucus at the top. You will also see “blood clots” in their natural form in the cup, since they are not ruined or disfigured by an absorbent pad or tampon. and that can be… Interesting, as well as eye-opening.

      On the outside of the cup, you will see mucus from the vaginal walls. See, period blood and clear cervical mucus both come out your cervix, which is at the end of your vagina. And the cup catches all that. But your vaginal walls also put out some liquid to keep things moist. It seeps out the walls kind of the way sweat does from your skin. So there are just all kinds of things going on up there.

      And this is a good thing really, because if you didn’t have the extra moisture outside the cup, then it might be quite difficult to insert or remove a cup. 🙂

  21. Connie moore said,

    Stop sending me email, you have sent about 10 in one day. Stop

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