About Me
Greetings. My name is Melissa, I was born in California USA in 1981. I currently live there. I was raised in a military family, and am the youngest of 5 siblings. I have lived in many different places, and was even lucky enough to live in Europe (Germany) for 4 years ages 6 – 10. I currently have a wonderful man in my life, but no children (yet).
Hobbies and interests include: Writing, video editing, singing, piano, designing/constructing 18th century gowns, vegetable gardening, online activities, music (1960’s-1990’s), movies, recreational college courses, reading (usually self-improvement, psychology, or romance books), psychology, and of course educating women about menstrual cups! 🙂
I created this blog page to help educate women on the latest developments in feminine hygiene (more specifically for menstrual care). The item I support is called the “menstrual cup”. Its basically a small, flexible cup and most are made out of medical grade silicone. It is reusable, and 100% clean, safe and hygienic. Its not the kind of silicon used in breast implants though.
This kind has been safely used as artificial heart valves in heart patients for the past 50 years. Menstrual cups basically collect menstrual fluid, rather than absorbing it, which takes away the risk of bacteria growth, harmful chemicals (from disposable products), and the risk of TSS (Toxic Shock Syndrome).
On my main page, you will find helpful information and links to pages that can answer some of your questions.
MenstrualCupInfo's Blog 
Gina said,
August 20, 2009 at 11:54 pm
Hi Melissa, I love your website! Its so informative! What your are doing through your website and videos is really helping women around the world. Your videos are more helpful than the websites of the products themselves. Thank you for sharing all the information with us women!
menstrualcupinfo said,
September 9, 2009 at 7:28 pm
Thank you, I’m glad you like the site 🙂
Lyssette said,
March 13, 2010 at 3:05 am
Melissa,
I just have to say “ditto” to Gina’s comment. You are indeed helping so many women with you Blogs and video. I know I could never thank you enough but I will try by becoming another promoter of the menstrual cups!
menstrualcupinfo said,
March 13, 2010 at 4:38 pm
Again, thank you so much for the comments. Its wonderful to see how many lives are changed for the better by cups 🙂
New_Convert said,
September 17, 2009 at 6:22 am
Great site. I have a Divacup and that’s about all I knew on the market, so it’s interesting to see what else is out there, for whenever it might be time to change up. Although I don’t see that happening any time soon.
I recently bought “Lunapads”, too – because my first day I need backup, and sometimes I don’t want to use my cup – and they’re great and cute and comfortable. But I know they’ve got competitors out there too. In case you’re ever interested in branching out, I bet you might even be able to get samples from the competitors.
Maybe you could pour blue liquid on them all… *g*
menstrualcupinfo said,
September 19, 2009 at 12:35 am
Thanks, glad you like the site. I have recieved samples already from 6 different cup companies, plus the ones I’ve bought. And 4 more brands are on their way in the mail now, which I will be doing reviews and videos on very soon. Only one sample cloth pad so far. But I wouldn’t mind more of those, since I ocasionally use them for backup :).
Christine said,
September 22, 2009 at 6:10 pm
Hi Melissa,
I have seen your videos on youtube and I think that it is a great thing you make!
This website and the videos are fantastic information’s for all women who searches for the right cup or have questions about them.
I only accidentally heard about menstrual-cups a few months ago, bought a Lunette and I am impressed by this wonderful cup. It makes period much easier for me.
I think every woman should know about these cups, to have a real choice between cups and the common period-protection (tampons and sanitary pads). If menstrual cups are better known, much more women would use and love it !
Because of this, it is so important and great that you have made this website.
Thank you for this!!! 🙂
Best greetings from Germany 🙂
menstrualcupinfo said,
September 23, 2009 at 12:08 pm
Thank you for your comment. I dearly miss Germany too, as I lived there for 4 years when I was a child. It will always be my second home 🙂
Trish said,
October 8, 2009 at 8:19 pm
Hi!,
I love your website! I’m very interested in trying one of these products, but there are sooo many. I live in the US, I’m 30 yrs old, no kids, married. I have vulvodynia & PCOS (also possible endometriosis). I can’t use tampons bc they’re too painful to pull out & the material makes me have pain flair ups. Can I use one of these cups with my condition? which one do you recommend? I would like the one that would be less felt in the body and hopefully not have it be too wide. Thanks!!!
Trish
menstrualcupinfo said,
October 10, 2009 at 8:58 am
Many women with these conditions use cups. But with more than one condition, it seems you would be a bit more sensitive inside. Which cup you use greatly depends on how low your cervix travels during your cycle, and how heavy your flow is. Let me know those things, if you can. I believe I have an email attached here, you can send personal info there.
Dandan04 said,
October 22, 2009 at 6:04 am
Hi,
I just want to say what a wonderful resource your website is. Your reviews are so thorough, and there so useful pictures and videos, that there is plenty of information for anyone wanting to invest in a cup.
I am a proud cup owner, after one buy, by I do feel a little sad I didn’t do more research, as there is so much out there now, its wonderful.
You’re doing such a service to women, thank you!
menstrualcupinfo said,
October 22, 2009 at 11:28 am
Thank you very much for the encouragement, I appreciate it 🙂 Makes it all worth while.
sophie said,
November 9, 2009 at 12:06 am
Hi Melissa – I love how informative your site is – not sure how I stumbled upon it, but I’m glad I did! I have a question as to what size I should order as I am under 30 (I’m 27) and have recently had my first child. Should I just go ahead and order the over 30/had a child? or the under 30/no child? Not sure which one is more appropriate.
Thanks!
menstrualcupinfo said,
November 9, 2009 at 5:08 am
A large would probably suit you. Also please keep in mind (not sure how long ago you gave birth), they do not recomend using a cup for post partum blood. There is too high of a risk of infection, because of the state of the body.
Normally, the size suggestion is “over 30, and / or had a child”. Although I think companies should clarify the “and/or” part more 🙂 Something happens with the pelvic floor muscles around the age of 30 (or after having a baby) which qualifies many women for a large. Of course, I do know some women with children who still use smalls. And virgins who use larges. But the guidelines are usually ok to go by. Also, it depends what brand you choose. If you are really unsure, its probably a good idea to order directly from the manufacturer– one who offers a return/exchange policy for a different size, if needed. Check out their Terms, and FAQ sections before purchasing, to find out if the company you want to purchase from offers this. Hope this helps.
Xavismom said,
November 11, 2009 at 2:02 am
Hi Melissa! I love your site! It’s so informative and easy to understand. I came from the
Philippines where tampons are known, but seldom promoted, and menstrual cups are unheard of. It’s good to know that women have all these choices. I do hope menstrual cups become available here soon.
menstrualcupinfo said,
November 11, 2009 at 8:22 pm
I hope so too. I think any woman who is comfortable with her body should try these.
fabs said,
December 6, 2009 at 6:51 pm
Hello Melissa, I love your website, it’s very cool and is a mine of great information about the wonderful menstrual cups! I am a recent convert as I have just bought a Mooncup UK (size B) and I absolutely love it! I was never a big fan of tampons, because I was always afraid of TSS, so I got stuck wearing pads, which are uncomfortable and just plain horrible. I love knowing that I am not polluting the earth with used pads/tampons too!
I am thinking of getting a second cup…what would you reccommend for a mooncup user? I quite fancy getting one in a different colour and that holds a little bit more for the heavier flow days…
Thanks again and keep up the good work!! x
menstrualcupinfo said,
December 7, 2009 at 2:58 am
The colored cups that hold more than mooncup UK are: Lunette selene (both large and small hold more than MCUK), Large Ladycup, Large Meluna, Fleurcup (again, both large and small hold more). Just depends weather you want a stiffer cup, or a more squishy cup. Small Lunette and ladycup are softer. The others are a little firmer. Hope that helps 🙂
fabs said,
December 9, 2009 at 7:59 pm
Thanks very much!! 🙂
Anna said,
December 12, 2009 at 11:14 pm
HI!
Thank’s for a great website and your films on youtube. They really helped me to decide on getting a cup. I have a Lunette Selene 2 and i love it most of the time but i still have problems with it sometimes. sometimes i have problems with getting it right so there is a leak and some days i really feel the cup.
Can you recommend a different brand?? I’m over 30 and i have given birth to two kids + i have a heavy flow.
Most greatful for your answer! 🙂
menstrualcupinfo said,
December 13, 2009 at 12:54 pm
The size 2 lunette is quite stiff, compared to the small, or to other brands. That could be the reason why you feel it so much. Which brand you choose depends how heavy your flow is. Another thing is– does it feel like the large is too big for you? The size charts are mostly just a siggestion, but I know virgins who use a large, and mothers who use a small. The trick is to determine if its too big. The cup being too big can cause leaks, but so can placement issues.
If you still need a large, but you want a softer one for more comfort, you can try Large Ladycup, Diva (large or small, they both have good capacity), Miacup, Large Yuuki, etc.
Anna said,
December 13, 2009 at 7:51 pm
Thank you for your reply.
I will absolutly try another brand because i want this to work so badly 🙂 I’m fed up with tampons!!!
Thanks again 🙂
Genevieve said,
January 1, 2010 at 8:25 pm
Thank you Melissa!
All your information and videos are being really helpfull for women here in Ecuador.
I am working in mine own proyect called Luna Feliz. I live in Quito,Ecuador.
I have this web page in spanish called http://www.lunafeliz.com were I post information about menstrual cups and cloth pads that were are doing here with some friends.
I am also selling lunette brand and the homemade pads. Its really working well ,not too much women interested because menstruation is such a tabu here but, little by little i am changing some paradigms. We are almost the only ones doing this job here.
I knew about menstrual cups just on the last year, and i am happy with mine lunette since this last month when i wrote to you because i was having leaks, and your answer was soo good that i dont have problems anymore. thank you for that.
I am really inspired with your work, and i want Luna Feliz to became a good guide for women that speak Spanish, interested in this excellent alternative to tampons and disposable pads. I am now using your videos to explain them about menstrual cups but i am going to do my own videos in Spanish in this next months. I am sorry i didn’t ask for your permission before but i didn’t realize it was something important to do since now.
We are also working, with these group of friends on helping women to reconnect with their femininity , through having healthier and happier menstrual cycles and with our mother moon. Its a beautiful journey.
I would love to comment on your blog about what we call in Spanish UN CICLO ARMONICO. we are giving back our blood to the earth in a little but powerful ritual, that help women to relate their cycle with our entire cycle on the planet, and not with something weird and dirty. This way of thinking and doing things is helping a lot of girls to feel good about being a woman. For each one of us was a beautiful discovery. .
Ok, Thank you Melissa! Hope we stay in touch.
Happy new year!
Genevieve
menstrualcupinfo said,
January 2, 2010 at 7:14 pm
Thank you too, I’m glad these pages are helping you, and you no longer have problems. Its ok if you inlcude my videos on your pages for educational purposes.
I also understand how it can be difficult to talk to some women about periods… Even here in the USA, half of the women I talk to about this are often uncomfortable discussing private matters causally. I think the problem is that nearly every society grew from an earlier, male-dominated culture where many things of the female nature were looked at in a negative light. Now we modern women bear the task of fighting against those old, out-dated attitudes. But we are making great progress!
Best of luck in your journey, you know you can always come to me and all the other cup users when you need help. 🙂
Genevieve said,
January 6, 2010 at 1:04 am
i just receive a christmas present from the girls of lunette.. a movie called “the moon inside you” really good movie!!! we should announce it on our pages… every woman should see it.
thank you!
we stay in touch.
Genevieve
Brittany said,
January 10, 2010 at 6:36 am
Hey this product looks really interesting I am considering buying one. Thanks for all the great info!
(I was reading the Questions and Answers page and I noticed a typo on the Q– Can I sue a menstrual cup if I have and IUD”- just to give you a heads up!)
menstrualcupinfo said,
January 12, 2010 at 9:23 pm
Lol, I’ll take a look and see if I can fix it. Thanx 🙂
Ashley said,
January 14, 2010 at 7:30 pm
Hello Melissa! I came across your website by pure accident and I have to say I love all the the info and everything you provide. Because of you I recently purchased a selene size 1 lunette menstrual cup, being that I have never used one before and based upon what I have read I thought it was a good choice.
Now comes my question, you see I have never had intercourse so putting the cup up has been somewhat of a challenge for me. I have tried several times to put the cup up, but it is somewhat painful. Do you think I should keep trying everyday so that my body gradually gets used to it? I normally use tampons so I didn’t think it would be that bad but it feels like I’m somewhat devirginizing myself. lol Any advise would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!
menstrualcupinfo said,
January 17, 2010 at 8:05 am
Practice with your hands/fingers for a while first, until you can fit 2 in comfortably. Use a water-based lube. Also, never insert up. always aim down and back toward the rectum or tail bone, because that is actually the natural angle of the vagina. If you insert up, you’ll just run into the front/top wall. Keep practicing, get to know your body. Virgins can find it a challenge sometimes, but you can get past it. 🙂
Ashley said,
January 19, 2010 at 7:55 am
Thank you Melissa! That sounds like a very good idea. I’m going to try that. Yeah I have found out that its going to be a little bit more of a challenge for me but I am definitely not going to give up because I am anxious for the benefits and freedom of using a menstrual cup. I cant wait to be able to use one regularly. Thanks again for the advice!
Matt said,
February 3, 2010 at 3:50 pm
Hey Melissa,
I just started my Masters in Product Design in Edinburgh, Scotland and I’m focusing on the perception of menstruation. I recently bought a femmecup for my girlfriend to try out. My research keeps taking me back to menstrual cups.
Anyway, other than finding your reviews interesting I was curious to know how you approached companies for samples. Such samples could be very useful to me throughout my project. Did you simply email them saying that you do reviews …?
Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks
Matt
menstrualcupinfo said,
February 3, 2010 at 8:10 pm
Hello Matt, nice to meet you 🙂
When I approached the companies, I explained that I was devoted to educating the world more about this product in general. The very first one I ever purchased was the American Divacup, and I wrote a review/made a video about it. I offered links to my reviews, and my videos to the companies, so I could back up what I was saying (I think that is most important to them, because every time they give out a sample, they are losing $25 – $50, depending on shipping costs…). When they saw my web pages, they agreed to send me samples, in exchange for me doing an educational video and a thorough review on their product. Also for allowing them to post links to the videos and reviews on their websites. The truth is, after doing this with 2 or 3 companies, I didn’t have to do much… I began to recieve offers from other companies, private distributers, and even other women who had extra unused cups, which they were willing to donate to my efforts. I never knew that purchasing a cup and starting these pages would lead to all this, but its kind of fun and exciting.
Best of luck to you in your quest. I would say contact the companies, and if possible, offer some proof or samples of what you are doing. Also, remember that sometimes the distributers (rather than the actual companies) are sometimes willing to donate, so its good to ask them too. Another thing you can do, is be willing to accept slightly imperfect samples, as in samples with a small hole punched in it, or deffective, but still decent looking. Thus far, I have only recieved cups in good condition, but in my request letters, I was willing to take less. I think that demonstrates that you really plan to do something productive with the sample, and you don’t just want a freebie, for the sake of a freebie. 🙂
M
Matt said,
February 4, 2010 at 8:25 pm
Thanks I really appreciate that.
Good luck in your menstrual adventures. I’m not sure that came out right but I think you know what I mean 🙂
Matt
menstrualcupinfo said,
February 4, 2010 at 9:26 pm
Haha, its ok. Thanks to you too 🙂
andrea said,
February 19, 2010 at 8:08 pm
Just found your blog! Thanks for educating!
bvlgaridiamonds said,
February 25, 2010 at 5:26 am
Why Hellloooo,
so i love your site i learned everything i needed to know about the cups and how to use them and clean them. i have been using instead for three months and i like it expect now i am looking to purchase an actual cup…the problem is i don’t know which one to buy there are so many. i was thinking the meluna but i have heard its a bit stiff and the lady cup has a slippery stem or at least thats what i have heard as well…have any suggestions for a cup?
menstrualcupinfo said,
February 25, 2010 at 11:31 am
It depends on how heavy your flow is, and how low your cervix is (I have a video about cervixes and cups on my youtubechannel, and a page abotu it here). Also your age, and weather or not yo’ve had a child. If you’re really not sure abotu any of these things, you could just try the cheapest one, which would be either Meluna from either their original website, or femininewear.com. Or Divacup from SouthCoastShopping.com, they have the best price. That way you can try one for a bit cheaper, and if you like it you can stay with it, but if not (like say if you need something with a different degree fo firmness/texture, or shorter), you can try a different brand.
bvlgaridiamonds said,
February 25, 2010 at 5:55 pm
thanks so much for getting back to me! i am 23 and have never had a child, my flow ranges from light to heavy to medium to light again so i wanted to get something that works with everything. again i love your site and i watched most of your videos on all the cups. i will look right now for the cervix one!
Paula said,
March 15, 2010 at 12:30 am
Hi, I’m Paula and I’m 25. I’ve been using a menstrual cup for the last 5 or 6 months but I just found your videos in You tube today. I
Paula said,
March 15, 2010 at 12:33 am
Hi, I’m Paula, I’m 25 and I’m from Brazil. I’ve been using a menstrual cup for the last 5 or 6 months but I just found your videos in You Tube today. I’d like to thank you for the informations, which were very helpful! The way you explain things in the videos is calm and easy to understand. Tahk you a lot!
menstrualcupinfo said,
March 15, 2010 at 9:46 pm
You are very welcome, thank you for the wonderful comment 🙂
Pamela said,
March 27, 2010 at 4:41 pm
I can’t believe I am almost 45 and am just hearing about these types of products.
I have a very heavy flow so during that week of the month life is horrible. I really can’t wait to try this..I think its a godsend! I have already told my best friend about it and intend to share it with any woman willing to listen. HOORAY that you are crashing through the stigma walls and opening the eyes of troubled women! 🙂
marta said,
April 13, 2010 at 9:28 pm
Great page, Melissa.
I discovered the cup a year ago, while having a hard time readjusting to tampons after almost 2 years of no period (due to pregnancy and breastfeeding). It caught my atention while looking at an online page on info and products for mothering, etc.
I could not believe I had never heard of it. I found it very unfair that such a life changing product is a best kept secret.
And I have made it a cause to tell all the women I know about it. Since that sometimes does not help (getting anyone to change well established habits), I bought one to my friend on her birthday… and she received it along with a duty: “if she liked it, she should buy one for a friend of hers… who in her turn, if she liked it, should buy one… etc.” So I am actually not forcing her to spend the money in a product she does not know, but inviting her to spend the money once she is convinced of it and wants to get a friend to try it too…. It seems to be working.
Anyway, many thanks for the blog. I will definitely tell others about it!
annieoakley said,
May 16, 2010 at 4:20 pm
Thank you so much for this blog.
I’ve been using cups for about 14 years or so and at didn’t know so many have come on the market recently. Your videos are really informative. It never occurred to me that I could have more than one so that I could vary the sizes with my flow. Thanks again, this is great!
Charlotte said,
June 12, 2010 at 8:41 pm
Dear Melissa, thank you so much for your website and the youtube videos! It took me a while to get used to the idea of a cup, but now i love it. I’m a convert. And i am happy that i no longer have to rely on the bleached and plastic packed tampons – less waste!
I often had urinal infections during my period and i am confident, that i wont have this problem anymore now. Why did my gyn not tell me about this?
thanks to your review i got the ladycup LOTOS with the pretty flowery bag – yay 🙂
menstrualcupinfo said,
June 13, 2010 at 8:09 am
Some Gyno’s know about these products, but many still do not. As far as advertisement goes, most people rely on television. But menstrual cup companies are small and private. Their products are made specially, and last for years. So this business is not a big money maker, even with the best of advertising. The products are wonderful, but the bisinesses do not invest in television time, that can cost over $50,000 for one commercial to be aired. So word abotu menstrual cups is mostly only spread throughout the internet, or from one user to another.
Annelie said,
June 30, 2010 at 11:45 am
Hi!
I’m trying to email you, but I’m unable to find your email address anywhere. When you find the time, could you please email me on annelie@menskoppen.se ?
I’m a Swedish reseller of menstrual cups and I would like to get in contact with you for a couple of questions. You are probably the most updated objective person on this subject in the whole world, it’s great that you share your knowledge with women all over the planet 🙂
Thanks in advance,
Annelie
menstrualcupinfo said,
July 1, 2010 at 10:47 pm
Sorry for the late reply, I will send you an email shortly… 🙂
Catherine said,
July 13, 2010 at 3:23 am
Hi Melissa,
Great page! Thank you so much for helping to inform those of us who want to know more on this subject.
I was hoping you could help recommend a cup that is a good fit for me. I’m almost 30, a virgin (it does happen) :), and a previous cup user. I had a small keeper cup but I stopped using it because it was rather painful to put in and take out. I don’t know if that’s because I’m a virgin or because the cup wasn’t a good design for me. I’m wondering if a “squishier” cup would work better. I’m thinking of trying a Diva cup. Do you have any thoughts on this?
Also, the site recommends the larger cup for women my age, but I’m concerned it will make insertion and removal more painful. I don’t really want to spend a lot of money trying a variety of cups so any advice you can give will be greatly appreciated.
Thank you very much. 🙂
menstrualcupinfo said,
July 14, 2010 at 12:54 am
Diva is a lot smoother and the rim is less intense. Softer too. Sometimes softer cups are mroe comfortable. Sure, they take a little extra coaxing to pop open, but its a trade. And if it has more comfort for you, then I would say its worth it 🙂 . Diva is the longest cup though in the body, so if you are “short” inside, that is something to consider… The sizing charts are mostly a general guideline, but if you think you are still small enough inside to where a small would fit, then its ok. I’m 29, married (so of course sexually active), and I still use a small cup.
Keriann said,
August 22, 2010 at 10:47 am
Hey Melissa,
This site is pure awesomeness. I’ve been a cup user since 2001, when the only one I knew existed was the Keeper. I bought a Diva Cup several years back, and am soon going to be trying out the Lunette, thanks in part to this blog. I had no idea so many different brands and models were on the market! It’s no help in regard to my terribly indecisive nature, but it’s a very pleasant surprise nonetheless.
Just a side note: I stumbled upon your post in the LiveJournal forum on menstrual cups about lubricants; I’ve heard that Sliquid Organics is awesome, but if you’re ever in the UK or want to let your UK/European readers know about a really fantastic lube that’s much closer to home, point them in the direction of http://yesyesyes.org. It’s a bit pricey, but well worth it, in my opinion.
menstrualcupinfo said,
August 24, 2010 at 11:54 pm
Thank you for the tip, I will keep that info on hand 🙂 Glad the blog helped you get a look at all the different brands!
C long said,
September 22, 2010 at 6:16 am
I am looking into this… but am very apprehensive.
I am just about 42, have had two kids. and have a myriad of little problems that make me afraid. I am supposed to go to organic feminine things because i have severe reactions to modern products, like aAlways… but I hate the old really sloppy old ones we used to have a long time ago.
I had a lot of my lower cervix removed because of pre cancerous cells, and I have lichen sclerosis and occasional bladder problems (sucks to get old, girls).. So I guess I am looking for advice on what one to try for comfort, lack of pain due tot he sensitivity, and the fact I work in a lifting job and walking a lot so I worry about it slipping and falling out.
I am interested because i tend to have more severe reactions after my periods, probably due to the pads, and would like to not have reactions…. I could never wear a tampon well as I always put it in wrong.
So in all my rambling i guess I am just asking for advice.
thanks
menstrualcupinfo said,
September 22, 2010 at 7:37 pm
Its good that you ask. Since your body is so sensitive, and you’ve had surgery up inside, I would strongly recomend that you discuss the use of a menstrual cup with your doctor first, before trying one. There may be scar tissue that he/she would be concerned about, or you may need to be stested for silicone, latex, or TPE allergies, being so sensitive. For your case, it may be important how high or low your cervix is, and your doctor can tell you all this. Maybe you could print out a photo of a cup and bring it in with you, if your doctor has not yet heard of them.
If your doctor says a cup is ok for you, then I will first say– don’t worry about it flling out 🙂 there is a light suction that holds it inside. Also, the vagina slants back toward the rectum, so the cup would be sitting almost parallel to the floor inside. It would not be straight up and down, in a position to “fall out”, or fall down, so to speak. Of course, if your cervix is naturally very low, then the cup may sit very low too. Sometimes a cups position might lower slightly when you are havign a bowel movement, and doing a lot of “pushing” with those muscles. But I’ve never heard of it falling out.
As for what you can use– You could try cloth pads. They are very comfortable, they breathe very well and they simply feel like underwear. They absorb better than the disposable stuff, cotrary to what you woudl imagine. They even sell them with liquid-proof barriers int hem now. You can just insert or remove as many absorbant cloth pads as you need for your flow. Bring extras with you on the go. They sell liquid proof barrier pouches to store used ones in when you’re out of the house. they also have hooks and snaps on the “wings” to fasten around yoru underwear for security. At home, you just toss the cloth pads in the washer and treat them like a load of socks. They will come out fo the dryier clean, and ready for the next use. Since you are sensitive, dont’ use hash chemicals like bleach, or fabric softener on the pads. Many people prefer somethign mild and gentle, like Woolite. Or even vinegar solutions.
As for a cup, again if your doctor says its ok– You can try softer brand Slike ladycup, Shecup, Miacup, etc. Those are mroe comfortable. Although the softer cups may take a little extra coaxing to pop open all the way.
If you decide to try a firmer cup (Large Lunette, Fleurcup), you may feel it more, but it can be a bit more secure in terms of a seal, or if you are worried the strength of your pelvic floor muscles, etc.
Hope this helps 🙂
sara said,
January 3, 2011 at 11:03 am
Hi Melissa,
when I first heard of menstrual cups, I was like struck by lightning! I had to have one! Here in Italy the most famous is the Mooncup UK. I’m 34 years old, no child and I have a medium flow (during the first two days), so I bought the size A. I’ve been using it for three months and, I have to say it, I am not completely happy. The problem: LEAKS!!! I tried everything but it didn’t work, so I had to use pads too:-(!
Could it be that the Mooncup is not the right cup for me?
I want to give another chance to the menstrual cups and I have decided to buy another one.
I found out that my cervix is low. Maybe, even if I’m more than 30 years old, I have to use a smaller cup?
After reading your blog (awesome!!!), I can’t decide between LUNETTE (or fleurcup) small and MELUNA medium. Which one do I have to choose? I hope you can give me an advice!
Thank you,
Sara
menstrualcupinfo said,
January 5, 2011 at 6:54 am
Hi Sara,
Its possible that the Mooncup does not have a high enough capacity to suit your low cervix. Sometimes a low cervix can take up space in a cup and cause it to fill faster. You can try a cup with better capacity, but is not too long (Divacup and large Yuuki are often too long for people with a low cervix). You can try a large Ladycup, a large Lunette, Large Fleurcup, or large large or small Miacup, also Shecup. Maybe even a large Meluna. Those all have decent capacity, but shouldn’t be too long in the body. The reason I suggest a large is because the capacity is better, but also, even without a vaginal birth, many companies still suggest a large to those over the age of 30.
Hope this helps,
Melissa
sara said,
January 5, 2011 at 8:16 am
Thank you!!!
This was very very helpful!!! I think I’ll try a large LUNETTE:-)))!!! I’ll let you know!
Bye!!
Sara
limor brief said,
March 1, 2011 at 12:25 am
hello! i’m looking for the owner if the pictures sighned as “photos by mellisa L. ”- i guess thats you! i’m from israel, trying to promote the menstrual cup, and wanted to ask for permission to use a photo. don’t have all the veraiety here so it will be much help! please answer here or to info@rosepads.co.il thank you!
menstrualcupinfo said,
March 1, 2011 at 11:02 am
I have sent a reply to you, to the email specified 🙂
query said,
March 1, 2011 at 6:30 pm
Wonderful site indeed! very specific question – would you recomment shecup over divacup. I live in India, so would indeed like to get something made here, but dont want to compromise on quality. it will be great if you can reply back to my email. Thank you sooo much!
menstrualcupinfo said,
March 2, 2011 at 12:58 am
I have 2 SheCups and I can say they are a very good quality cup. Don’t be afraid to get something close to home, I am very pleased with the SheCup products 🙂
Genie said,
August 20, 2011 at 12:39 am
I have found your blog incredibly helpful and am happy to say I am free of tampons and pads, yay! But the Lunette I’m using is killing me. It’s just the way I’m shaped, getting stabbed by the cup is causing a great deal of discomfort–it’s fine as long as I’m standing. It’s only while sitting that I’m having issues. And, yes, I trimmed the stem and smoothed the cup until no trace of the stem remains. I’ve switched to the disposable Instead cup for a little while until I can find a new reusable cup that doesn’t poke me so much. I’ve searched and searched your blog but haven’t quite found what I need. Which cup, available to a US shopper, would you say is the softest? I’d need a large cup as I’m in my 40’s. Capacity isn’t a problem, I have light flow. Small capacity is fine. I haven’t been able to find a cup that is significantly shorter than the Lunette and they all seem to have those pointed bottoms. So which is the softest? I’m thinking if I can’t go short, soft may be the ticket. i know from your blog that soft cups are harder to place because they don’t pop open as easily, i can live with that. Finances are an issue, I can’t afford to keep buying cups in search of the right one, so please help! And thank you so much for your blog.
menstrualcupinfo said,
August 28, 2011 at 7:17 pm
the “soft” variety of Meluna is one of the softest cups. The only softer one is CupLee, but that’s in Russia, and harder to get. Also the small meluna is the smallest cup. So maybe it begin the second softest, and the smallest, that could help?
Beauty said,
January 13, 2012 at 8:56 pm
Can say i am avirgin i av lose my hymen
menstrualcupinfo said,
January 15, 2012 at 7:56 pm
It depends how you lost it. If you lost it during sexual activity– then no, you are not a virgin.
If you lost it some other way– then yes, you are still a virgin.
A virgin is someone who has never had sexual relations with another person.
Amanda said,
January 15, 2012 at 9:06 pm
Hi Melissa
Your site is so great and informative! It has lots of great info and is very positive!
I have been thinking about trying a cup, but I am SO confused which to buy. I have never used one before so I don’t know if I would like softer or firmer, ball end or pull tab, etc. I am 27, no kids and I have an IUD. Are these even OK with an IUD? The other website I like for info is IUD DIVAS, very informative as well. It seems people have posted on that site that they use them, but you know so much, maybe you could confirm for me it’s ok. So basically I would like it know 2 things; is it ok with IUD and which would you recommend for someone who has never tried one, an intro cup, if you will.
Thanks in advance! Best regards,
Amanda.
menstrualcupinfo said,
January 18, 2012 at 8:43 pm
Hi Amanda 🙂
Plenty of people use a cup with an IUD. Also, about half of the companies say its ok to use with a cup, “with caution”. Basically, the big trick to it is just to make sure that you break the suction, and KEEP it broken during removal. This is usually done by inserting a finger along side the cup and denting in the wall to constantly keep an air channel to the rim open. Or you can do a “partial fold” during removal, this has the same result. But for this, its best to get in the habit of emptying when the cup is about half full, so you have plenty of space to do these things, without spills. You will learn how long it takes to fill halfway during your first few days. If you are nervous about wearing it in public in the beginning, you can always just practice in the evenings when your at home, with a pad for backup, until you are confident with a cup.
As for which cup to use… Firm or soft is really just a question of how patient you are 🙂 And what qualities you want more. Here are the pros and cons:
FIRM: Opens quicker and more easily. If you have a fast-pace, on-the-go lifestyle where you need to be in and out of the bathroom QUICK– you might like something like this. But if you are extremely sensitive, you may be more aware of a firmer cup.
SOFT: More comfort for very sensitive people, but it takes extra coaxing to pop it open. If you are patient, and easy-going, you may not mind this.
But of course you could always “split the difference” and go with medium firmness 🙂
I might be able to help you narrow down a brand or two, if I know how heavy your flow is?
–M
Amanda said,
January 18, 2012 at 10:35 pm
Melissa
I am a tampon user therefore I would only know how to tell you based off of that. On my heavy days I will go thru a super plus every few hours.
Does that help?
Any middle softness to start sounds good.
Amanda
Amanda said,
January 19, 2012 at 12:55 am
Ok so I went to whole foods tonight and while I was there I went down their feminine aisle. They only sell diva cup. I bought it. I just tried it. I cannot get it in at all… I think my cervix is low and an ultrasound tech once told me its tilted…. Am I not cup material?
Kate said,
January 27, 2012 at 4:13 am
I love your Site! Thank you so much for putting all of this out there! It has helped me a lot!
I am just wondering if you have any suggestions as to whether or not there is a different cup I should try that would better suit my needs. I would really love to be able to use one as the only really negative thing I experience about my period is the pads.I hardly ever get cramps, no migraines and just some slight breast tenderness. I don’t know how my flow is, I am guessing that I have medium to light flow. I only ever use normal pads and that is only on my 2nd day, some times 3rd. Then I can use thins For the 1st, 4th and 5th. I usually only go for 4-5 days.
I have a question…I bought a size B moon cup 4 years ago when I was about 18 and wasn’t able to use it at all (I couldn’t get it in, it was super painful). I put it aside and just recently pulled it back out. I love the Idea of a cup but this one is so painful! After several tries I finally got it in and it felt comfortable while it was in there for the most part. Taking it out though hurts really, really bad. Just pressing the bottom of it does not release the suction I have to put my finger up and push it in, but when I do that it literally feels like I am pinching my cervix inside it. And then it takes a ton of effort to take it out. I sit and relax and it helps some but it still hurts. I bear down as this is the only way I can get it out at all. Everyone keeps talking about holes on the rim of the cup that help it to release, but I don’t see any holes anywhere on mine. When I just pull on the base it feels like I am going to suction everything out of me and it hurts. I did tear when I put it in, I am a virgin, so that has added to the pain I know. I also noticed that the bottom of the cup tends to push on the base of my vagina. I am thinking that it is too long for me. I am guessing that my cervix is low; I can reach to behind it with my index finger even on non-cycle days. I also think that a more narrow cup would help. I am wondering if there is a “softer” cup as mine seems fairly rigid and my urethra is extremely sensitive anyway and when I take the cup out it feels like I am scraping stuff off the inside! OUCH!
I would also love to be able to swim while I have my period and tampons aren’t an option for me as I researched and decided against them because of their risk of TSS. And if I am going to be getting away from pads, it makes sense to go with non-disposable! I would love to hear any suggestions anyone has on this and thank you in advance!
~Kate
Kate said,
January 27, 2012 at 4:16 am
Correction, my cup does have holes in the rim, they are just really small!
menstrualcupinfo said,
January 29, 2012 at 6:32 am
Ah, you found them. I was just describing them in my last reply 🙂
menstrualcupinfo said,
January 29, 2012 at 6:31 am
Hi Kate,
FIrst I will strongly suggest trying to get a water-based personal lube to help the discomfort. That’s what I use and it helps quite a bit. But apply in and around the vaginal opening, don’t apply it to the cup. Or else the cup will be too slippery to hold.
Also, just before you go to remove the cup– go ahead and apply some lube just inside the vaginal opening again. For me, that really helps. Try a smaller fold too, like punch-down.
The holes on a Keeper Moon Cup should be just under that second rim, like the ridge abotu 1/3 the way below the top rim… But of course this brands holes are VERY tiny… There should be about 6 of them.
Witht his brand, its best not to just “pull”. Pinch the bottom, and rock it from side to side, gently coaxing it down as you do so. That helps to more gently break the seal. Ease out one edge of the rim. Do it from the side, instead of the front, so you don’t bother your sensitive urethra.
But if you decide to try another cup, I would say try the “soft” variety of Meluna. I find it easier to remove, and the suction is not crazy-strong. But since it only has 2 small suction release holes, make sure one of the holes is inside the folded crease when you fold it. That lets it draw in air longer, so it can open better. And try inserting with the fold crease facing back. The back wall of the vagina has more room for popping open.
Since your flow is not too heavy, you can try small, or even a medium.
Hope this helps,
Melissa
Kate said,
January 29, 2012 at 3:16 pm
Thank you so much! I will definitely give these tips a try. I have been looking around for lubes so I will get some of that. I have been leaning towards the Lady cup to try, But I will start looking at the Meluna too.
Thank you again for so many great tips!
~Kate
Grace said,
January 8, 2013 at 11:19 pm
Hi!
So I found about menstrual cups quite a while ago. Before I even started my first period. I’ve had 7 periods so far, and probably going to have my 8th in about a week.
So I was going to ask what cup would you recommend for me to buy?
I have a light to medium flow and my periods last about 5-7 days. Just recently I leaked through one of my regular pads during 5th hour at school. I don’t know if it will get any heavier because it’s my first year. Anyways, I’m pretty sure that my cervix is about 5cm up inside (I checked once by myself during one of my periods) and I have never had intercourse. I really want to have a cup that I can use during gymnastics.. I’m afraid from the ways that I move my body the suction will release. Like while doing middle and side splits, handstands, tumbling like back handsprings, backtucks (backflip) and everything else.. If there is a cup that I could use during gymnastics please let me know. Would a softer cup be better for gymnastics, maybe? I was thinking the soft MeLuna..
Anyways, thanks for your time, have a good day!
aeon4 said,
February 9, 2013 at 6:47 pm
Honey, I want to thank you to share your long journey to find, in the end the menstrual cup. You’ve saved me time to tell me your story and now I want to buy a menstrual cup but I find that it is quite difficult in my country, must be in shipping, not bad but I wish there was a nice store like yours, somewhere in the city that is so big, where I could calmly go and pick it. Come on, open a store in Mexico City, which would be revolutionary and I assure you, your clients would have it filled. I would do it but right now I lack sufficient capital for investment.
Just a thought but with a flourishing future!
I appreciate your attention and I wish you much success! A hug and we’re seeing!
menstrualcupinfo said,
May 14, 2013 at 8:26 pm
Check my list of brands on the right side of my blog page, I think there are some retailers in Mexico, or at least in South America, which may be a little cheaper and easier in shipping. Also check the Lunette website, I remember someone from down in Mexico contacting me once to ask who he should write to so he could become a retailer. He may have done it, and there may be a retailer down there now.
menstrualcupinfo said,
May 14, 2013 at 8:38 pm
Oh I knew it! There is one in Mexico, its called “LunaCup”! 🙂 I have a page here with information on this one, please check it out. and someone also left a comment below that page, listing the measurements, so nice of them.
Amanda said,
February 12, 2013 at 5:27 am
I’m obviously a little late to the party, but I’m glad I made it! I just ordered my first cup and I am so excited to receive it 🙂 Thanks so much for the helpful information you have posted. This blog is seriously what made me cross the line in the “switch or not to switch” debate. Again, thanks! 🙂
pannini45 said,
May 21, 2013 at 8:17 pm
Hi Melissa!
I love your blog, it inspired me to create my menstrual cup blog for teens. You were a great inspiration and I know we are helping spread the news about cups. I hope you can check out my blog oneday xD. Thank you.
-Pan
menstrualcupinfo said,
May 23, 2013 at 11:27 am
I sure will Pan, thank you! 🙂