A Story: My Journey From Pads To Cups

NEWS:  I now sell menstrual cups at my new store:

www.zanashop.com

I would like to share with everyone how I went from starting my first period and using pads, then switching to tampons, and finally menstrual cups.  I’m hoping this story will help inspire some of you to do the same, or at least connect with you on a personal level.  Perhaps even bring back a few memories of your own. 🙂

Pads– And So It Begins

My first period hit me when I was 12.  I was living with my father and his parents, up in the mountainous woods in northern California.  I was the only female of menstruating age on our family’s property, which was about 20 miles from the nearest town.  One afternoon, I was out with my male cousins who were visiting us.  We were looking for a place to build a tree fort, when I started feeling this dull, nagging ache in my pelvic area, close to my bladder.  It wasn’t really bad, it was just kind of annoying.

Before my parents divorced, my mother told me all about periods, but I had never felt cramps before.  So I wasn’t sure what the pain was.  I also drank a lot of orange juice back at the house, so I had to go to the bathroom.  I excused myself and quickly made my way back to the house.  While I was in the bathroom, I noticed that the toilet paper was kind of pink after using it.  So I grabbed some more toilet paper, to double check…  This time, there was a dark red stain on it.  I suddenly realized that I had started my first period!  I sort of lingered there in shock for a minute.   Then I used some toilet paper for temporary protection, and fixed my clothes.

I stood there in front of the sink, staring at my reflection in the mirror for a couple of minutes.  Somehow, I just didn‘t look like the same person anymore.  I realized I was growing up, and becoming a woman.  I was now part of the changing of the tides, the moon, and the different seasons, in a magical way.  Life from this point on would never be the same.

After breaking the news to my kind and understanding father, I watching him undergo the “My little girl is growing up” realization.  Then we went into town and bought some disposable pads.

Lord, I hated using those things!  The pad would move with my clothing, and cause stains.  Or it would twist and bunch, which was painful to sit on.  Then when I moved certain ways, the sticky side would peel up and stick to my skin…  Ouch!!  Plus I never felt clean or dry.  Eventually, I learned to wear tighter underwear to keep things in place, but I still hated having to wear something akin to a small pillow for 6 days every month.  I wasn’t brave enough to try tampons yet, so it was just a matter of setting my mind, every time my period hit.

Tampons– The Next Step

I admit, I avoided tampons as long as I could…  I was afraid of them, because they seemed to advanced!  Among many other typical fears.   But I was forced to try them and learn the ropes one day, when I was 20 years old.

I was attending my local community college, and I had gone to visit my friend Sammy in the girl’s dorms, there on campus.  We were watching a movie in her room– when suddenly, my period hit 3 days early!  Sammy didn’t have pads, she only used tampons.  And my flow had grown heavier by that age, so toilet paper wasn’t going to work.  Sammy gave me the instruction pamphlet that came in her o.b. tampon box, and handed me 3 of the tampons to use.  It took her a while to talk me into trying them, but finally I gave in and went to the bathroom.

I struggled to get that first one inserted…  I didn’t know the vagina slanted back toward the rectum.  So like many girls, I mistakenly aimed up (I would learn about that later).  Eventually I got it to insert about an inch and a half, but no further.  It just sat there, barely inside the entrance.  And I admit, I partly didn’t want to put it in further, because I was afraid of losing it, which I now know is impossible.  But it still did the job, and collected my flow for about 3 hours!  I was amazed at how clean and dry I was!  I had never spent my period clean and dry before.  I decided to switch over for good, and I purchased a box of tampons that day, on the way home when my dad came to pick me up.

When I was 21, I finally realized that aiming BACK toward the rectum was the big trick to tampons.  I was so amazed at how much more easily it went in, and how much further I could get it to go comfortably.  Also, how I couldn’t feel it anymore!  So that was a neat discovery.  For the next 6 years, I would think that tampons were the greatest invention on earth…

Cups– A New And Better Way

I found out about menstrual cups one day in December 2008, after watching a western romance movie called “Stolen Women, Captured Hearts” on TV.  For some odd reason, the movie got me wondering what Native American women used during their periods.  Especially before white settlers came with all their cloth, back when most native women only wore leather skins.  Leather didn’t really absorb…  So what did they use??  I decided to look it up online, but found very little information.

I did however find the “museum Of menstruation” website.  There, I saw some discussions about menstruation, and I kept seeing the words “menstrual cup”.  At first, I thought maybe it was a bowl or a funny shaped cup that tribal women must have used a long time ago…  I heard that some native women were kept in their own private tent until their period was over, so I figured maybe they squatted over a bowl or cup to catch the blood…?   So I did a google search on the term “menstrual cup”.

One of the first results to come up was a video by YouTube member “Scottishboomerang” (Lucy).  She showed the menstrual cup she owned, explained what it was and how it worked, then did a demonstration on how to insert and remove one, using a wine glass.    At first, I was completely grossed out, and I refused to even give the idea a chance.  But eventually, my curiosity won me over.  I started doing research, and I found out that the material (medical silicone) has anti-bacterial qualities.   And that the material has just the right blend of softness and firmness, to hold its shape during removal, so it won’t spill.

Eventually, I started to love the idea of never having to purchase disposables again.  So I went to iherb.com and bought myself a cup!   It arrived in the mail 4 days later, and I spent the week doing dry (non-period) practice runs with it until I got the hang of insertion and removal.  Finally, when my period arrived, I tried my cup for real— and it worked like a charm!  I was clean, dry, and comfortable all week!  I have pretty much been a cup convert ever since, and I try to let everyone know about them.

Its funny how the smallest events in our lives can lead us to something revolutionary.  Who would have thought that watching a western romance would lead me to a curiosity that would change the way I manage my period for life?  All I can say is, when your instincts tell you to dig deeper, go ahead and do it!  You never know what you might find.

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59 Comments

  1. Lyssette said,

    Melissa,

    Thank you for the blogs and the AWESOME videos on You Tube. Thanks to you my switch from tampons to menstrual cup was a success. Before I got my menses, I was able to learn the proper insertion and removal methods and play with the different folds, to find the one that was easiest for me. You are a life saver, thanks for all you do.
    I have become a spoke person for the menstrual cups and I refer people to your Blog constantly.

    Thank you!!!!

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Thank you so much for your comment, it was very touching! Comments like this let me know that the information I am putting out there is making a difference. Good job on helping to promote them! So far, I know women in France, Germany, South America, and Australia who have pages like mine, and about the same number of cups/brands, and they too are helping to promote them just as I do. I say the mroe there are of us, the better informed women will be! join the ranks, dear!

      Hugs

  2. robes said,

    great story.

    tobe rouge

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Thanks 🙂

  3. katie said,

    i think that all your info has officially made me a convert. so thank alot

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Thank you as well, that lets me know these pages really help others 🙂

  4. Becky said,

    Hi, thanks to your site and videos I’m about to purchase my first cup. I’ve narrowed it down to either the LadyCup or the Lunette and am hoping you can point me in the right direction. I know that every womans body is different but for a beginning user who has a moderate to heavy flow and has vaginally delivered 3 children which is the better of the two as far as ease of use and comfor? Thanks for the great information.

    Becky

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Between those two brands, and a moderate to heavy flow? I would say Lunette. Probably the large, since you’ve given birth. ITs not so bad, even I as a married woman (with no kids) can swing a large if I need to. I just prefer smalls because I’m a bit short inside 🙂 But technically, for me, even the large is still pretty comfy. I’ll use a large if I know I will be out of the house all day, it jsut gives me mroe confidence 🙂

      Hope that helps

      M

  5. Theresa said,

    What kind of cup was your first?

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      That would be the small Divacup 🙂

  6. rockerbaby13 said,

    I would like to add to the sea of thank yous! I first heard about cups in a non-cup related forum and was instantly intrigued, but they were too foreign of an idea for me to try. Then, a year later, my girlfriend pointed out the Instead cups at the pharmacy she works at. She had never heard of such! That sparked my memory and resparked my intrigue about cups, so I hit Google and found your blog and videos. Thanks to all your wonderful information, I finally bought a MeLuna cup, and I LOVE it! It makes my life so much easier. I was having trouble with proper insertion and removal at first, but your videos really helped, and before long, I couldn’t believe how easy using them was! Anyway, I just again wanted to thank you for the time and effort you have put into your website and YouTube channel. You really are helping a lot of women!

  7. Ruby said,

    I’m just wondering if all the cup-converts are former tampon users and that is why they like the cup so much? I’ve been a pad user all my life (I’m 29) and have used a tampon, I’d say less than 10 times in all that time. Each time I just found it to be.. I don’t know. It’s a psychological thing. Shoving something up there that was never meant to be up there, and then keeping it there for hours – I could never get my head around it. Which of course made me nervous, which of course made the whole process uncomfortable. I also didn’t like that on a heavy day, it felt like I had this pressure/weight pushing down in me after just a couple hours. I never understood why women loved it so much. I swear I only wear one if I have to (like for swimming) and I yank it out the first chance I get, lol.

    Anyway.. I do love the idea of this (cup) though. The never running out, lack of leaks, non-toxic factor. But I’m hesitating for the same reasons.. I can’t stop thinking “ugh, now I’ll be shoving a cup up there? What’s next? Some forks and spoons.. a special new ipod that charges better up there?” (I’m just being a sarcastic ass.. sorry, lol)

    I love the concept of cloth pads.. but the cleaning up part (and traveling and public use) is a little irksome. So I keep coming back to this cup idea as an alternative when I’m out and don’t want to deal with a messy cloth pad.

    If this all sounds lame, I apologize. My mom was a former hippie and new nothing of tampons (except for all the pamphlets she’d wave at me about the dangers of toxic shock syndrome – thanks mom), so I was brought up in a very pro-pad environment.. and since my periods are far apart and short (only one heavy day), pads have never been a big deal (or that expensive) to use. My period comes.. I wear pads for a couple days.. I’m done for another 35 days.

    So ya.. any strict pad users out there suddenly find the cup to be the most amazing thing ever?? Or is this really just a tampon alternative in the end 😦 I would love to be convinced! 😉

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Hmmm… I WAS a strict pad user once upon a time. So I understand why people might be a little freaked out about wearing something up inside.

      But as for it being “unatural” or “not supposed to be there”… Technically, a pad isn’t even supposed to be there. If we were all natural, living in the wild, it would just run down our legs and be visable to everyone. But still, I understand how some people might be concerned about wearing something *inside* their body that wouldn’t naturally be there. But really, it depends how you think about it. Sometimes, having something inside your body that you were not born with can be a very good thing! For example: A hip replacement, or and artificial heart valve, or artificial knee joint cartilage replacement. All of which are often made of medical silicone as well. Of course, those things are necessary, and using a cup is a choice… But still, sometimes medical inventions make our lives better and easier. 🙂

      and hopefully other users will reply to this, but if not, I can personally say I’ve met plenty of women who have switched directly from pads to cups 🙂

    • loucheena said,

      Yes!! I’m only 15 and I’ve used pads for all of my periods. I tried to use a tampon once, but I couldn’t get it in, didn’t know which direction to put it, was scared it’d get lost etc. Later on, I tried a sea sponge tampon. I got it in, but I have a low cervix, so the sponge kept pressing against it and it hurt enough that I took the sponge out in less than an hour. Nowadays I use cups, and they’re awesome! Very comfortable(can’t feel it at all), doesn’t irritate my cervix, and in the process of using and learning about cups, I’ve learned tons about my body, and for that I’m very thankful. So yes, cups are extremely awesome and I only used to use pads.

    • Leah said,

      I was a pad user like you. I used tampons when I had dance recitals or went camping but I took them out as soon as I could. I could rarely get them where I couldn’t feel them. I either didn’t put them up high enough and they wiggled out or they dried me up too much and I just felt them in there. I was mostly a light flower so I used pads most of the time. Even with pads though I got irritation on my thighs from the wings by the end of my cycle. I bought a Diva Cup while in college during 2005. It was uncomfortable at first because I couldn’t get the hang of getting it in right but the first time I did it right I was completely surprised! for the most part I didn’t feel a thing and I had no leakage. I could dance on my period comfortably! That was a big shocker to me. It is just sooo nice to finally feel clean and not have to worry about if i’m leaking out of my pad or if it is set properly in my underwear to catch everything. I would say give it a try and try it for at least 3 cycles. Thats how long it took me to get the hang of it and actually get it in right all the time. I still get it wrong if I’m rushing and have a little leak but thats my own fault for not doing a 3 second seal check. 😛

    • Luana said,

      Melissa-

      Hi! I just wanted to say thanks for your amazing blog and sites. I was doing an internet search on swimming while menstruating a week ago and a few clicks later, found an article on menstrual cups. I did more research and once I found your site, I knew I’d found a great resource. Your posts and videos were essential in helping me to decide not only to switch to cups but also which ones to try. I just got my first cup in the mail today and though I know it’ll take time, I’m looking forward to not using disposables again. Thanks so much for all of your help and work.

      Luana

      • menstrualcupinfo said,

        Thank you, Launa. I’m glad this information helped you. Pretty name, by the way– unique 🙂

    • mlochk22 said,

      I was also a strict pad user and would only buy a small box of tampons once per year at the beginning of summer. Why? Swimming, of course! And by the next year they would’ve disappeared and I’d have to buy more.

      Then one year ago I got the balls to finally try a cup after reading about them for years. Mainly because someone I know bought one and raved about it. I’ve been using the diva cup for a year now and it’s the best thing ever. I’ve only leaked once, first thing in the morning, and have had occasional light leakage on my heaviest days (ie: just enough to leave a light pink tinge on my underwear indicating I need to empty my cup), but other than that, it’s been a dream come true.

      Take tonight for instance. I’m using my diva cup and going out to our town fair where it’s 90+ degrees with 85% (give or take) humidity making it nasty out there! But I’m not going to smell, and you know what I’m talking about!, and I won’t have to use the port a potty to change my pad. That right there is a benefit! Lol

      I bought the small divacup first, however it was too long for me, so I’ve been using it for the past year flipped inside out. And even that way it’s a bit too long, but still comfortable. As of last night tho, I have now bought myself a small ladycup, in plum, which is significantly shorter in length than the diva up (1 3/4 ” vs 2 1/8) and only 3mm different in circumference. I am 33 and had 1 child 15 years ago, so the small sizes are way more comfortable for me than the larges. And if it doesnt work out well, I’ll buy a med meluna next!

      Switch, you won’t regret it!

  8. Krista said,

    I’m so glad you post so much information and videos and such; thank you!

    I recently started using a diaphragm for birth control (sometime last year), and that was weird at first, but I’ve grown to love it. My husband and I have joked about putting it in during my period, and who knew there were things actually like that!
    I dislike tampons for a few reasons. I don’t like how much they absorb (they dry me out even using the lightest ones), I don’t like the risk of TSS, and I don’t like the way they feel (yes I can feel them). So I am really excited to try a cup.
    Lately, my husband and I have been switching to a lot of healthier options, like washing our hair with baking soda, making our own deodorant, using the oil cleansing method for our faces, so this seems like a logical next step for me. Now I just have to figure out which one I want and where to get it!
    Thanks for supplying such helpful information!!!

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Oh I totally get you– I could always feel tampons too! Oddly enough, I feel a cup less than I do a tampon.

      • Krista said,

        Good to know! I’m getting excited about this now. I’m thinking of getting the Keeper Moon Cup…buying American. Did you know the bags are made by retired seamstresses? I think that’s cool.
        Thanks so much for all your helpful information! 🙂

      • menstrualcupinfo said,

        I never knew that! Interesting 🙂

  9. Krista said,

    I read it on the Keeper website. I guess they’re not retired afterall. lol. 😉

  10. Quitterie said,

    Awesome stories.. 😀

  11. Leah said,

    I would just like to say that I love your blog! I stumbled onto it while thinking about trying a different brand. I currently use the Diva Cup and sometimes feel the ridges. I normally don’t feel anything but when i’m being lazy or hasty about putting it in I can feel it rubbing. I think I might try the Keeper or the Moon Cup. I haven’t decided between the two.

    I’m so glad you have been so open and put this blog out there for the world to see. It is very difficult explaining to a lot of my friends why I choose menstrual cups instead of pads or tampons but now I can direct them here and show them it isn’t just a hippie Santa cruz thing. 🙂

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Thank you, I appreciate everyone whom this blog helps. I agree, its much easier to just be able to send a eprson a link to a page that explains everything, lol. I built this blog up little by little for that very reason– I too used to find it frustrating to re-explain the concept to people 🙂

  12. regina said,

    I can’t thank you enough for all this great info. I tried getting a Lunette or a Shecup, but all that’s available in my area seems to be the Divacup. I went to Whole Foods and bought one, took it home, sterilized it and I’m trying it out now. I’m a bit surprised that it all went so smoothly, so I hope I have no issues with the fit! Many, many thanks for all the good information and reviews (and youtube videos). I hope this works out for me!

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      I hope so too! Please let me know how it all goes 🙂

  13. Carli said,

    Hi! I just wanted to thank you SO much for all the helpful youtube videos & information (pretty sure I’ve watched almost every one of them LOL :)) I live in the midwest & honestly there is very LOW awareness that menstrual cups even exist ! I wish I would have found out about them sooner (I’m 21)! After doing tons of research I just ordered a small lunette & can’t wait to try it out!! PS-I had NO IDEA that KY lubricant isn’t safe because of the glycerine! So I ordered the safe lubricant your helpful youtube video recommended! Thanks again!!!
    ~Carli

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Thank you as well, I think every woman should be aware of the glycerine problem. Many people think just getting a water based lube is enough, but its not. And the fact that over-the-counter yeast infection treatments for at-home use are selling like hot cakes, is proof that awareness really needs to be spread more. I encourage every woman to spread the word about what she learns here 🙂

  14. yoniyum said,

    Love your website, especially this article. I made the switch to cups after friend told me about all the gnarly chemicals in bleached cotton tampons and haven’t looked back since. I also wrote an article about cups that you can find at: http://yoniyum.com/moon-cycles/menstrual-cups/ . Do have a look if you got the time!

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Thank you, I will surely take a look 🙂

  15. Julia said,

    Hi!

    First and foremost, I love your blog. There’s so little awareness with menstrual cups, and with such a handy, healthy product there should be much more.
    I’ve been looking into getting a cup, but I’m a virgin with a medium flow. (say, I’d soak a super tampon in about 3-4 hours) so I’m having a touch of trouble choosing a cup. any recommendations?

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      I would say try a smaller one, but with decent capacity– small Lunette, small Yuuki, small Flerucup. If you know where your cervix is, and if its high (meaning if you can’t reach it, or its not easy to reach)– you might want a small Diva, its longer, so easier to reach for a high cervix. Or a small Miacup.

  16. rosie said,

    Pardon me, but I could use some help in choosing a cup! I’m 15, a virgin, with a flow that can fill up a pad in about 3 hours (I usually wear for more like 6 which is probably bad for me, but it’s so much easier…) I was thinking about the miacup, but there are so many brands out there! I still haven’t been able to find my cervix so I’m not sure about anything anymore!!!

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Miacup is a good one, especially for a heavier flow. Small Lunette and Small Yuuki have decent capacity for their size, and are not too big. Those are all great choices for a virgin with a heavier flow. Hope that helps 🙂

  17. MentruationCelebration said,

    Hello hello 🙂

    I just discovered your videos on youtube whilest looking up lots of other menstruation videos. As with everyone else who posts here, I must give you a huge, huge thanks and tell you how much I appreciate your dedication and attention to detail.

    In my menstrual history I went from pads to tampons- which I too thought were the *greatest* when I finally figured out how to use them (and I did have a LOT of difficulty figuring it out, not to mention a couple of painful experiences, one in which I almost passed out)- until I learned of the Diva cup from a friend about 4 years ago or so. I absolutely loved the idea of it for all of the benefits and finally tried one a year later.

    I purchased a US brand MoonCup in size B (if that is the smaller one). I have to say, my experience with it was very mixed. I had difficulty with insertion the first few times and much difficulty removing it every time I needed to. I loved how it collected the blood rather than absorbing and felt that my vagina was much happier about this. It was great to realize how much tampons had been drying me out and how much better if felt with the cup. However, another problem I had was with the long stem, which I couldn’t risk trimming because I already had to cling desperately to it when trying to remove it, and because of its length, for me, I would feel it poking me all day long. It hurt whenever I did pull it out, less so when I learned to relax but still a little. After the third month I finally gave up and went back to using either just toilet paper or tampons. I was glad to have tried it but thought that cups just weren’t for me.

    I then learned about Sponges a year or so after that, and immediately purchased a couple, tried them out and fell in love. They were so easy to insert and remove and were very comfortable. However..once again, after using them over the past year 1/2 or so, there are some times when sponges get a little annoying. Whenever I’ve had one in for a while and it fills up a bit, if I laugh or sneeze or cough- really any movement that causes my pelvic muscles to contract/squeeze, I feel the sponge leak a little bit and it just feels…funny lol. I don’t mind it normally, but my recent job happens to be very physical, it just gets to be a bit much sometimes when I’m dealing with customers and running around all day.

    I’ve been interested in giving the cup another chance, and I was so so so glad to have come upon your video which compared all of these different brands. I had NO idea how much variety was out there! And after doing a lot of comparisons amongst brands and sizes I am so excited to try out the small soft MeLuna cup with a ring. Your videos and reviews were awesomely helpful 🙂

    I also feel compelled to mention how wonderful it feels to have learned so much over the past few years, and how empowering it has been for me. Not only do I feel empowered by the growing number options- or rather, the growing assortment with respect to how different and unique all of our bodies are- and the growing number of voices out there that are working to spread the word, but I also now have a completely different relationship with and appreciation for my menstrual cycle, my body and my entire sense of self as a woman. I have become really passionate about this 🙂 (part of why I am so interested in trying the cup again is because I have been experimenting with collecting my menstrual blood to feed to my plants- it is very nutritious for them- and also to do paint with– seems very *out there* to a lot of people but there are communities of women who share this hobby– you can check out a really great forum of menstrual art here- http://community.livejournal.com/blood_art/?skip=20). I am proud to say I now warmly welcome my period each month and am much more in tune with my cycle (6 years ago I never would have thought this possible, so woohoo for me) 🙂

    I could go on and on, but I just had to express how happy I am to see how many people are communicating about this,learning, exploring, helping each other, etc.

    Thank you again ❤

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Thank you for the lovely comment 🙂 I haven’t tried sponges yet, but I’ve seen some very interesting types out there. I heard of something called soft sponge, and a few others. and brands of cups are just popping up left and right. There is probably a good one out there for any woman who wants to (and can) use them 🙂 Let me know if you’re looking for a cup with certain traits, maybe we can figure out which brand would be good.

      Melissa

      • MentruationCelebration said,

        I am trying to see if I can order a small soft Meluna cup because I was looking for the smallest possible size and that seems to be the one out of all brands. I have a fairly light flow only lasting 3 days tops, and since it felt like it was stretching me out whenever I would remove the MoonCup (it hurt a little whenever I pulled it out,. the Meluna soft seems like it will work more with my body. Plus, I’m hoping the ring stem will be much more comfortable (since the mooncup’s long stem poked me when I had it in all the way) and will help with removal. If you have another recommendation based on that, I’d gladly take it into consideration. Actually, maybe you can help me decide if I should try the ball stem or the ring, because I was wondering which would be the best for comfort and still help with removal. Thanks again~

  18. JOe said,

    This blog is great and really appreciated this post too!
    I’ve been thinking about switching to a cup for some years…Unfortunately here in Italy we are not so upgraded about this kind of things (most of the doctors and gynaecologists don’t even know what a cup is or how to give advices about it…:( )
    I’m wondering if there is a considerable difference between a brand and another
    …First I heard of mooncup, but then looking for more informations I found out
    there are a lot of brands/models/etc. and don’t know how to choose which one is better…? They all seem “the same” to me…any clue?
    Anyway thank you so much, it’s really great to find so many informations and opinions. 🙂

    (excuse me for my imperfect english 😛 )

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      That’s the thing, I can honestly say there is no one brand that is better for everyone, we all have so many unique needs.

      Basically large or small should be based on whether your flow is light or heavy, and whether you’ve had a baby. Extra heavy flow should stick with high capacity brands like larges of Yuuki, Miacup, Lunette, Divacup, Fleurcup, Meluna.

      Anyone else can pretty much pick any other cup. Just little personal preferences might develop after trying at least one brand. Stiffer cups (Fleurcup, Keeper, large Lunette) pop open more easy. But softer cups can more more comfortable for extra sensitive people (more effort to pop open though).

      Then of course there is price, availability in your area, color preference, etc. But those would just be personal preferences 🙂

  19. Echo Greenwaldt said,

    Its like you read my mind! You appear to know so much about this, like you wrote the book in it or something. I think that you could do with some pics to drive the message home a little bit, but instead of that, this is great blog. An excellent read. I will definitely be back.

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Thank you 🙂

  20. Karley said,

    Hey do u find that iherb is a trustworthy site to order a divacup from? Ive lurked around for reviews and found both good and bad. Ive heard that alot of packages are never shipped. Which is what i am basically afraid of. Im using my sister debit card (me being only a teenager) and im afraid something bad is going too happen. Thnx.

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      I ordered a small DivaCup from them and a bottle of Divawash, and they both came quickly. I haven’t heard other complaints… Hopefully any bad experiences were rare?

  21. Desperate! said,

    I am 18 and have been a strict pad user because tampons hurt. I used them on one period, but haven’t since. I can’t even get my pinky finger very far in. : ( but I love to swim and am tired of making up excuses not to while on my period. I am a small person all around. I thought I’d try the diva cup but it is too big and I can’t get it in. Does anyone have any advice on what to do. Please Help!!

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Whether its a tampon or a cup, you might benefit from using lube to help insertion. Make sure it is water based though, oil based can cause infections. Also, always insert aiming back toward the rectum. Never aim straight up, because the vagina really slants back, crazy, but true. Those tips can help.

      But also, hands are easier controlled and more careful/gentle than objects like cups or tampons. So it might help to practice adjusting “that area” to accommodate something like a cup. But little by little. Also, if the hymen is the issue, it also depends which kind of hymen you have, there are 6 different kinds. I would say just gradually adjust things there with care. Eventually, you’ll be able to use the DivaCup. It just takes practice and getting used to. Also, your nerves and your body will change, to where things are not so uncomfortable there.

      You can also try different fold. Try a punch down fold, it makes the part you insert much smaller. You can even try inserting with the folded crease facing backward or down, sometimes that helps it pop open better once you do get it to go in.

      Hope some of this helps, just take the whole thing in baby steps, you will get it.

      Melissa

  22. revcka said,

    Love, love, love this site! I heard about the DivaCup last year but decided I wasn’t ready to be adventurous yet…well I saw it in the store the other day and decided to do more research which led me to your site and ALL the other possibilities for menstrual cups!! I had no idea they came in so many shapes and sizes, I was relieved because the DivaCup seemed kind of big for me.

    So, I do have a question for you. I decided to go with the Lunette but I’m still unsure about the size. My doctor told me my cervix is low, which is why I chose the Lunette…should I get size 1 or 2? I’m 29 and have not given birth. Automatically I thought I should get size 1 (the smaller one) but being almost 30 I wondered if I should be getting the larger size…your advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!!

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      I am also 29 with a low cervix, and have never given birth… 🙂 Of course, everyone’s body is different. But I seem to be in that middle groove, where either size of any brand works great, its just a question of how long I want to go before emptying, because the larges hold more. I have been able to use both sizes just fine, but I guess at our age and life status, if you are only picking one, there would be a few factors to consider:

      1– Is your flow heavier? If it is, a large will hold more.
      2– Are you willing to do a little more coaxing to help the softer small pop open? Some enjoy the extra comfort of a softer cup, but others don’t like the extra time for coaxing. Stiffer cups pop open faster and more easily. The large is stiffer than the small.
      3– Do you want to cut corners, and just get a large now, seeing as how you might need a large in the future anyway after possibly having a baby, or aging a bit more? Or would you be willing to buy a larger cup later on, if your body changes?

      All these points can really help make the choice easier. 🙂

  23. Laura said,

    I bought on ebay a what I thought was a mooncup, turns out that it was a green donna. Even though I am 35 and had 2 kids (C-section) I bought a small (I am only 4ft 4in) I can’t get the thing to open (5th cycle). Looking at different websites I think I need a firmer cup. Can you give me any suggest.

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Green Donna is one of the softest, I’ve heard. A stiffer cup would be like Fleurcup. Its really close to the same size, but just firmer, so its easier to pop open. Also, if you wanna try a large, the large Lunette is firm (small is softer). And I think small Yuuki is close to the same size as well, but its kind of in the middle between Fleurcup and Green Donna in stiffness.

      Hope this helps 🙂

  24. Sandra said,

    Many thanks for this informative blog. I just switched to a Diva cup and I just can’t believe how long I have managed to live without it!

  25. Skyler said,

    I’m 12 years old and started my period maybe 5 months ago when I just turned 12.ive gone one period without telling my parents, I’m very shy and not open to this. I never really thought about periods until than. I knew what they were but I thought I would be getting mine when I was 14 or 15, like my lucky mother. I also learned that I hated it with a passion. I’d cry wishing I was a boy or a boy would be the one who gets periods. Its not like I’m gay or anything lol. Anyways I’m never open and never told my mom my period came back for about 4 months now. She thinks it’s just irregular like I told her the next month, chickening out on telling her November, December! So I was l was living off 2 pads each period, trying to avoid the fact of her finding out I’m using her pads. She also has tampons!! I was way to scared to try them and never asked her about this stuff, continuing to look it up. Again, I have my period January and I’m using a wet pad from 2 hours ago and its already soaked and uncomfy and leaking from the back and not from the front. It’s annoying, it gave me a bad mood and a grumpy attitude for the 3 days I was on it so far, it’s nighttime so being day 4 tomorrow. I forgot how to mention that I’ve been getting my period heavy solidly 8 days and about 1 week later after it finished. That happened in December but idk if I’ll happen this month. I’m nervous that I’ll leak tonight. Ran out of pads. I leaked on most of my panties and pants! Help!!! What about tomorrow? No pads for school!! I think I have no choice but to ethier grab a tampon and try really quick or use the same pad but probably won’t work. I’m scared and we ran out of toilet paper and our car has bad brakes do we are stuck at the house for a week! I have to walk to school and walk home….fml. This sucks. So if I tell her anyway we cant do anything about it. HELP!!! This is bad and my life sucks so far. My period ruined everything. After 7 periods, I’m ready for menopause even though I have about a 100,400 more to go. :,( I’m crying in my room hoping for god to help me..

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      Awwww, you poor dear!

      I know its really hard, and it feels really embarrassing at first… I hated my period at first too. I thought it just wasn’t fair, lol.

      For right now, since it is an emergency and you cannot buy any supplies– maybe you could find some old (clean) rags that nobody would miss, fold them up and use them. Or some old clothes that you almost never wear, and cut that up, fold it and use it as a pad. Cloth actually absorbs VERY well. If you use several layers, sometimes it works better than disposables. You can also use toilet paper, roll it up many times around your hand in a way that makes it long. With snug/tighter fitting underwear you can hold it in place. You can even use tape on the bottom if you need to, like wrap the tape in a circle so it is sticky on both sides, to hold the toilet paper in place.

      I know you feel very shy about it. And of course I don’t know your living situation. I have heard of some extreme situations with parents who actually get angry at a daughter for having her period, maybe for cultural or religious reasons. Or personal reasons. I hope your situation is ok? Are your parents ok with you reaching womanhood? Is it simply a case of innocent shyness?

      If everything is ok, and you are just shy, then I would say it is certainly best and tell your mother every time you have your period. One way you can do it, which is much less embarrassing, is you could write her a note. Then give it to her, and leave the room while she reads it. Write how shy and embarrassed you feel, and explain that this is the reason for you not talking about it much. In the note, ask if there is a way you can let her know every month, so you can be prepared. If money is not a big problem, maybe you could get 2 or 3 periods worth of supplies, so you only have to ask every 3 months?

      The other thing is, the school office, or the school nurse usually has a supply of pads, especially since today– most girls geth their period between 11 and 13. So if you are comfortable asking a woman in the office or the nurse for “girl supplies”, that is another way to get it. Also, you can get MUCH cheaper pads at a dollar tree (dollar store) or a 99-cent store, if you ever manage to have few dollars in your pocket.

      As I said, I used to feel the same as you. But later, I realized that your period is so beautiful and natural! Did you know that the gravity pull of the moon actually controls when we get our period, just like it controls the tides in the ocean? When you get your period, its like this amazing thing that means now you get to be part of the moon, and nature… Its really quite magical! And you have now developed the power to “create”, which is nothing less than a miracle! And now, you will be changing in ways that make boys/men (or your gender of choice) enchanted by you, and want to do almost anything you say! lol 🙂 Its really so amazing.

      If you need someone to talk to, you can talk to me, if you like.

  26. jason said,

    thanks for your story iwas wondering about mestrual cups and I think you have now converted me once again thankyou
    jason

  27. Labake said,

    Whao a story i can never forget

  28. Chrissy said,

    Well i found menstrual cups after seeing instead cup at walmart and i was what? so ya after some research i found out about em and talked to my mom and after talking to her i found out had actually used tampon wrong for yrs! sadly and weird enough i had never put them in my vagina but only in the first part(forgotten name) I had thought i had figured out how to use them at my cousins house lol,(had went back and forth with pads and tampons) but ya so at 23 i was figuring out tampons and trying to talk to my dad(which was very cool bout the whole thing and well i bought a orange ladycup and decided to get some reusable pads as well from TreeHuggerMamaCloth.com which are the best ever!! and well i tried the ladycup and it wasnt working my hymen was unstreched or unworn, but i was able to finally get it in but the out was HORRIBLE to say the least, i got it out once i think but the next time or so i did try i well ripped my hymen(needless to say i freaked and my mom had to calm me down and tell me it was ok)(note i live with my parent and me and my mom are soo close me being a only kid) so i took a break and the next period strangly u think id give up but i had it on my mind i was guna use it and that was all! lol so i tryed again and i was getting better but the out was still tricky i had to always put the cup back in half like before i could get it out my hymen wasnt giving again(annoying much!) and so this last period i tried once more and well sucess! hahaha i was able to figure out if i hook one of my fingers in the cup and bend it a little i can get the cup out no problem and i have wore it the last few days in pleasure lol only thing was the first day of my period the cramps were worst i wasnt sure it could have been cup or just worse cramps tho after wearing it the last few days nothing….so i think it was just worse first day cramps, i also found out that i dont bleed but many half a cup on my heavy days, and that i think my period has been getting lighter since i started using my reusble pads. Also i hope to use mostly the cup on my next period =) tho being a bit OCD i hate more pads to not get used tho lol werid i kno =D so theres my odd story lol enjoy 😉

  29. reneesalvatori said,

    Has there ever been any association to Toxic Sock Syndrome with the cups?

    • menstrualcupinfo said,

      I’ve never heard of any reported cases, and neither have most other people I know. Of course you can’t say the same for tampons 🙂

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