Cups – Still Not Convinced?
These are my direct words from a video I did about the rejection of menstrual cups. I am currently working on editing the video and will hopefully have it up soon. But for now, I can offer this for my readers. Its basically concerning cups, and some people’s different reaction to them.
More specifically, its to discuss the reasons why some people completely reject the idea of a menstrual cup, and hopefully I can address those issues in such a way that helps to soften people’s hearts about them. Of course, what you use to take care of your period is totally up to you, preferences are different for everyone, and that is perfectly ok. I would never try to force someone convert to cups.
I like them, so naturally I might encourage people to give them a shot… But I’m not trying to make anyone feel bad about what they’ve have chosen to use. I always say, if there’s one thing every woman should have completely control over, its what she uses for her period.
But I do think its important to make the point that just because someone doesn’t personally want to use a menstrual cup, doesn’t mean it’s a bad idea for others. Or that that person can‘t accept menstrual cup as a reasonable option for other women to use, and put it in the same accepted category as pads and tampons.
Again, that’s all I’m trying to do by discussing these matters– not push people into using a cup, but just get them to accept them as an option.
So with that in mind, let’s go over the most popular reasons why some people might reject menstrual cups:
1– They think a reusable item that goes in the vagina is disgusting, or unsafe.
2– They think the concept of a cup that collects blood is nasty or gross
3– They think its going to be messy
4– They don’t like having to touch the genital area
So first, lets go over #1– Thinking a reusable item that goes in the vagina is disgusting, or unsafe. I think its really just a matter of getting over a different idea, and seeing it for what it really is. Because its really not that weird, or different, or unconventional at all. For example, here are some things that people put inside the vagina, or up against it, and then wash and re-use all the time, but nobody gives them a second thought:
Underwear– and that’s actually an important one to remember if you are grossed out by things like washable cloth pads, because its essentially the same concept.
Diaphragms– and doctors actually prescribe those, which they wouldn’t do if they thought the concept of reusable vaginal products was medically unsafe. Lots of women have been using diaphragms for decades.
Certain personal bedroom items– such as adult toys, and things that single adults or couples use.
All these things come in direct contact with the vagina, or go up inside it, and are washed and reused. And they are no cleaner or dirtier than a menstrual cup during use, or after they are washed.
Furthermore, the material used to make menstrual cups is non porous, so it won’t be absorbing anything. There‘s nowhere for bacteria to hide. And medical silicone has natural antibacterial properties. So any germs or bacteria you may be concerned about, will just wash right off the surface of the cup, and down the drain.
So you’re not putting something dirty back inside you– its perfectly clean.
Now we’ll look at #2– Thinking the concept of a cup that collects period blood is nasty or gross. Well technically, its not really any more nasty or gross than a mushy blob of cotton, soaked in period blood and either sitting right next to your skin on the outside as a pad, or coming in constant contact with the vaginal walls up inside as a tampon. The only issue is, you’ve been conditioned to overlook the cotton concept, all your life. But trust me, if you had never heard of it before, you would have the same reaction to it. In all 3 cases, the blood will be constantly touching your skin. Its really all just mind over matter.
#3– Thinking its going to be messy.
Um …. This one I think, is really just a matter of being honest. Both with yourself, and others.
First off, it’s a statistical fact– most people who use a menstrual cup (myself included) with a little practice, get to a point where we can put one in and take it out, with no more mess than a pad or tampon.
Second– I’ve used both pads and tampons most of my reproductive years. And I’ll be the first person to admit– They’re not as clean and fuss free as they’re made out to be. Even with pads and tampons, you will occasionally get a mess on your hands, or on your underwear. Tampons get overly full and leak. Pads move and shift around, and messes happen. That is just a fact of life.
And if you have been using pads or tampons for a while– you know that‘s the truth. Especially with pads. I don’t mean to be overly graphic, but they can be quite messy when you‘re doing your business in the bathroom. I’m not putting pads down– I’m just saying that I dealt with more mess using pads, than I do with a menstrual cup.
So I think if people can just acknowledge that cups, pads and tampons can be equally clean or messy, then that’s good enough for me.
And # 4– Not wanting to touch the genital area.
I would never insult anyone for being uncomfortable with this. Because sometimes, there could be a lot behind it that I don’t know about. It could have been the way they were raised, it could be a religious or cultural belief, or something traumatic may have happened to them in the past. Its really not my place to judge anyone on that.
However, I will say that regardless of anything else, I believe that knowing your own body very well and being comfortable with yourself and your natural functions– is not a bad thing. In fact, there are very good medical reasons why its important to be extremely familiar with as much of your body as you can. Don’t overdo it of course, there are some areas that only a doctor should explore, like your intestines (laugh). but knowing your body for cleanliness or medical reasons, is perfectly honorable. And if your discomfort is because of something that happened in your past– there is nothing wrong with working through that, and maybe even finding someone to talk to, who understands. Your body is a beautiful and precious thing, and you have every right in the world to be comfortable, to know yourself, and know the things that you need and want, in regards to your own body.
Also, from a biological standpoint– since it is part of your body, you are constantly touching the area. Its attached to you, and part of you. In fact, along with the heart and brain, it’s one of your main centers. The skin of the legs is attached to the vaginal area. Blood that is flowing through the veins of your vaginal area, will be flowing through the veins of your hands, your face, your mouth and tongue, your brain, your stomach and the rest of your body– in just a couple of minutes. All of your body parts are constantly sharing with each other.
I know that my words are not miracle words, and it takes time to work through personal discomforts. But I would just like to encourage everyone to explore this as much as possible. And I hope I’ve been tactful about it.